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5 Steps To A Happier You August 9, 2010

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Less IS More, Mindfulness.

When we give ourselves permission to be more fully who we are, we encourage others to do the same. 

Instead of competing with others for external rewards, we cooperate with others to bring about lasting change.  As we become more conscious of our own choices, we feel less need to control the choices of others.  

If you want to be happier, here are 5 steps to getting from where you are to where you want to be:

1.  Be Here Now.  Focus on the perfection in this magical moment.  You are exactly who and where you need to be.  Uncertainty holds the promise of infinite possibilities for growth and joy.  Get comfortable not knowing.

S.M.I.L.E. –> See Miracles In Life Everyday

2.  Become unconditionally constructive.  Be part of the solution, not part of the problem.  Strive to lift others up, rather than tearing them down.  When you inspire others, you inspire yourself.  When you inspire yourself, you inspire others.

Who have you inspired today?

3.  Get rid of your tolerations and fill your days with more of what you really want.  Stop spending time on things that don’t add to your happiness.  Live consciously, purposely, and with integrity.  Be absolutely determined to enjoy whatever you choose to do. 

If you’re not actively involved in getting what you want, you don’t really want it.

4.   Accept and respect yourself (and others) as is.  Self-acceptance, self-responsibility, and self-assertiveness allow you to meet your needs while respecting the needs of others.  Don’t strive to be happier, kinder, thinner, or smarter than others.  Strive to be happier, kinder, healthier, and wiser than your previous self.

The goal is self-confidence, not arrogance ~ use yourself as the only frame of reference.

5.  Simplify everything.  The less you have, the less you have to worry about.

That is all.


1. Agatha82 - August 9, 2010

“If you’re not actively involved in getting what you want, you don’t really want it.”

That is very wise and true…

nrhatch - August 9, 2010

We often think we want something (maybe because others are pursuing it), but our true desires tend to keep kicking us in the ass until we attend them.

So, if we aren’t in hot pursuit . . . it’s probably NOT a priority.

2. souldipper - August 9, 2010

I want #5 on my gravestone!

Years ago, I found “Freedom of Simplicity” by Richard Foster – who is a Quaker I believe. Fabulous book that caused me to cringe at my lusty habits. He helped me transform into a greener person, though that was not a term used at the time.

His final challenge threw me for a loop. It was: What possession is the dearest for you? I decided it was my laptop. It supported my work world as well as personal communication.

“Give it away.” he wrote.

I gasped for air!

But eventually I did give it away – though I cheated. I bought a new one and gave THE beloved one to a woman who was feeding street people on $400. a month.

nrhatch - August 9, 2010

My life changing book = Simplify Your Life by Elaine St. James:

I bought copies for EVERYONE on my Christmas List that year.

The more we detach ourselves from our possessions, the less chance they will come to possess us!

Thanks for your great comment. I’ll have to check out your life changing book, Freedom of Simplicity.

3. cindy - August 10, 2010

Number 2 will be my aim for today.

nrhatch - August 10, 2010

That should be easy-peasy . . . you often inspire your fans. : )

I know I often find inspiration from The Only Cin.

4. bendedspoon - August 10, 2010

5 happy tips
i wouldn’t miss
all worthwhile
i so like to SMILE

nrhatch - August 10, 2010

Me too!

Smiles and laughter improve our mood and our immune systems.

5. One - August 11, 2010

Simply wonderful. Thank you very much. Very brief and to the point. I totally agree with every single word. If you do not love yourself, how can you expect others to love you. You can start by noticing that Everything that comes into your experience revolves around you. You do not need to chase anything or wait for another. You are here to enjoy every bit and every moment of your experience.
Thanks again.

nrhatch - August 11, 2010

Glad it resonated with you. Thanks, One!

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