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Acceptance Is Power March 26, 2020

Posted by nrhatch in Health & Wellness, Life Balance, Mindfulness, People.
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I read an interesting article yesterday in the Harvard Business Review about the “grief” we’re feeling as a result of CoVid-19 and its inherent uncertainty:

That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief 

The article is worth a read.  Here’s a brief excerpt:

You said we’re feeling more than one kind of grief?

Yes, we’re also feeling anticipatory grief. Anticipatory grief is that feeling we get about what the future holds when we’re uncertain. Usually it centers on death. We feel it when someone gets a dire diagnosis or when we have the normal thought that we’ll lose a parent someday. Anticipatory grief is also more broadly imagined futures. There is a storm coming. There’s something bad out there. With a virus, this kind of grief is so confusing for people. Our primitive mind knows something bad is happening, but you can’t see it. This breaks our sense of safety. We’re feeling that loss of safety. I don’t think we’ve collectively lost our sense of general safety like this. Individually or as smaller groups, people have felt this. But all together, this is new. We are grieving on a micro and a macro level.

What can individuals do to manage all this grief?

Understanding the stages of grief is a start. But whenever I talk about the stages of grief, I have to remind people that the stages aren’t linear and may not happen in this order. It’s not a map but it provides some scaffolding for this unknown world. There’s denial, which we say a lot of early on: This virus won’t affect us. There’s anger: You’re making me stay home and taking away my activities. There’s bargaining: Okay, if I social distance for two weeks everything will be better, right? There’s sadness: I don’t know when this will end. And finally there’s acceptance. This is happening; I have to figure out how to proceed.

Acceptance, as you might imagine, is where the power lies. We find control in acceptance. I can wash my hands. I can keep a safe distance. I can learn how to work virtually.

I can accept the what is.

Aah . . . that’s better!

I’m Late . . . For An Important Date! March 14, 2020

Posted by nrhatch in Gratitude, Happiness, Mindfulness, Nature.
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Amid all the Alerts and Assurances I received yesterday about CoVid-19, I received a reminder about one of my favorite dates of the year ~ Friday the 13th!  The e-mail came from Speak’s Clam Bar and said, inter alia:

Looking back to the origin of legends about Friday the 13th, we can find that these days were first regarded as special, not unlucky. The day itself, Friday, was associated with good fortune and is the day that the Sabbath starts. And the number 13 represents the essence and power of a Goddess, because it corresponds perfectly with the number of lunar cycles in a year and therefore the number of fertility cycles for a woman.

Friday the 13th was meant to be a celebration of our lives and the Goddesses bringing their luck to us. When the chance comes that these lucky numbers show up, we are meant to count our blessings.

Today let’s count our blessings ~ a good meal, someone in our life to laugh with, beautiful beaches, trees, mountains, flowers, etc.

Aah . . . that’s better!

A Follow Up To This Morning’s Post March 5, 2020

Posted by nrhatch in Health & Wellness, Home & Garden, Mindfulness.
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For more helpful tips from pathologist, James Robb, visit Snopes.com ~> Did A Noted Pathologist Write This Viral Coronavirus Advice?

In a nutshell:

1) NO HANDSHAKING! Use a fist bump, slight bow, elbow bump, etc.

2) Use ONLY your knuckle to touch light switches. elevator buttons, etc.. Lift the gasoline dispenser with a paper towel or use a disposable glove.

3) Open doors with your closed fist or hip – do not grasp the handle with your hand, unless there is no other way to open the door. Especially important on bathroom and post office/commercial doors.

4) Use disinfectant wipes at the stores when they are available, including wiping the handle and child seat in grocery carts.

5) Wash your hands with soap for 10-20 seconds and/or use a greater than 60% alcohol-based hand sanitizer whenever you return home from ANY activity that involves locations where other people have been.

6) Keep a bottle of sanitizer available at each of your home’s entrances. AND in your car for use after getting gas or touching other contaminated objects when you can’t immediately wash your hands.

7) If possible, cough or sneeze into a disposable tissue and discard. Use your elbow only if you have to. The clothing on your elbow will contain infectious virus that can be passed on for up to a week or more!

Stay Safe!

Clearing The Path February 23, 2020

Posted by nrhatch in Art & Photography, Life Balance, Mindfulness.
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Not all storms come to disrupt your life.

Some come to clear your path.

Artwork by Carole A. V. Dougherty ~ available at Island Gallery West

True for you?

Utopia January 31, 2020

Posted by nrhatch in Mindfulness, Music & Dance, People, Spirit & Ego.
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I would love to live in a world where everyone gets along.
I would love to live in a world where everyone is color blind.
I would love to live in a world where everyone respects everyone.

I would love to live in a world free of greed & corruption.
I would love to live in a world with a level playing field.
I would love to live in a world where the powerful didn’t prey on the weak.

I would love to live in a world of cooperation, not competition.
I would love to live in a world where people engage in dialogue.
Sans judgment.

I would love to live in the world Alanis describes in Utopia . . .

Aah . . . that’s better!

Thoughts To Ponder January 23, 2020

Posted by nrhatch in Art & Photography, Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness.
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1. Jokes, like life, don’t benefit from over analysis.

2. Just ask:  Will this make my life Simpler?  Happier?  More Joyful?

3. Inhale/Exhale ~> where does a circle start?

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Aah . . . that’s better!

The Cat & The Caterpillar January 19, 2020

Posted by nrhatch in Life Balance, Meditation, Mindfulness, Travel & Leisure.
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When I got to the fork, I saw a giant mushroom.  On it perched a Hookah Smoking Caterpillar.

“Hmm . . . curious and curiouser.”

From a floating smile, the Cheshire Cat emerged.

I asked the Cat and the Caterpillar, “Which way should I go?”

The Cat just grinned.

With that, the Caterpillar sat and started to chat, rather randomly at first and then with increasing clarity and wisdom:

Happiness is not waiting for us at the end of the road ~ it’s found here and now, by enjoying each step along the way!

“A good traveler has no set plans and is not intent on arriving.” ~ Lao Tzu

Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.

I decided I was already exactly where I needed to be . . . so I sat to chat.

With the Cat and the Caterpillar.

And that was that.

I never reached the bend in the road.

Aah . . . that’s better!

Need A Lyft? December 23, 2019

Posted by nrhatch in Mindfulness, People.
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If you plan to use Uber or Lyft over the holidays (or thereafter), this is a useful read with good tips:

Staying Safe When Using Ride Hailing Services (Consumer Reports)

Merry Christmas!

Yes, I Am Postive! December 5, 2019

Posted by nrhatch in Gratitude, Happiness, Life Balance, Mindfulness.
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Want to be a more positive person . . . along with all the perky perks that entails?

Here are 6 tips:

Reframe or Divert ~ Accept what you cannot change. You can shake your fist at the sky all you want, but it won’t stop the rain from falling.  Look for opportunities among the obstacles.  Find the silver lining.

Savor the Good ~ Focus on the positives.  Enjoy the luxury of a sunny day. Relish your meal.  Enjoy the tastes, sights, and sounds around you.  Be Mindful of the present of the present.

Set Reminders ~ Flexing your positivity muscle is a habit-in-the-making. Posting post-its around to remind yourself to see the good is a good way to shift your focus from “what’s wrong” to “what’s right.”

Do Something Nice for Someone Else ~ Sometimes the best way to improve our day is to improve someone else’s day.  So be kind to others and enjoy the boomerang effect of those positive feelings.

Phone A Friend ~ Knowing that someone has your back can be an automatic mood booster.  When you’re down in the dumps, don’t dump a pile on negativity of your friend’s shoulder.  Instead, boost your view by piggy-backing on his or her positivity for a while until your own resilience returns.

Say Thanks ~ An attitude of gratitude improves our aptitude and altitude in life.  When we shift our perspective from “what’s wrong” to “what’s right,” we feel an immediate shift from negative to positive.  It’s not what happens that determines our mood, it’s how we CHOOSE to view what’s happened.  Developing an attitude of gratitude pays BIG dividends.

Aah . . . that’s better!

To read more:  How To Be A More Positive Person (TIME)

Switching Gears November 3, 2019

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness, Travel & Leisure.
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Yesterday morning, we planned to go to the Bishop Museum of Science and Nature.  In addition to the Mosaic Backyard Universe (opened this fall), we wanted to enjoy a special exhibit from  the American Museum of Natural History in NYC ~ Giants, Dragons, & Unicorns (The World of Mythic Creatures).

After touring the museum, we planned to visit the Bradenton Farmer’s Market to get some fresh local produce.

Of course, life is what happens when we’re busy making plans.

Just before leaving, I checked the museum’s website to confirm the time it opened . . . and learned that it was closed all day in preparation for a fundraising gala that evening.

OK.  Plan B.  We’ll go to the Farmer’s Market, get some produce, stash it in the car, and then enjoy a walk along the Riverwalk.

When we arrived at the Farmer’s Market, our favorite farmer wasn’t there. Greens On The Go was a No-Go.  We walked from end to end of the market without making a purchase because the produce didn’t look appealing.  Or local.  Instead of small farmers selling their current harvest, the vendors looked like they grew everything under the sun . . . a sign that they didn’t grow anything at all.

So we enjoyed our walk along the Riverwalk, made a couple of pit stops for provisions at Panera and Fresh Market, and returned home for lunch.

After lunch, I looked through the island papers and saw:

The Sandblast sandsculpting contest will be 9 am – 1 pm, Saturday, Nov. 2, at the Manatee Public Beach, 4000 Gulf Drive, Holmes Beach.

BFF and I agreed to head over there for a pre-sunset stroll to see the sculptures.  When we arrived at the Manatee Public Beach, 4000 Gulf Drive, Holmes Beach at 5:30, we saw No Sculptures.  Not one.

If you’re feeling gypped too, type “Sandblast” into the search widget (upper right) to see past sculptures, like this one:

OK.  Plan B.  We drive up island to the Art & Culture Walk on Pine Avenue to see the featured artwork at the AMI Historic Museum and a sprinkling of area stores ~ Three Island Monkeys (featuring the work of the Florida Audubon Photographer of the Year, RJ Wiley), Emerson’s Studio, AMI Accommodations and the Flip Flop Gift Shop.

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Since the event ended at 6 pm, and we didn’t arrive until 5:45, our quick tour of the paintings and photographs was more “whirlwind walk” than “studied stroll.”  That’s OK:

Do What You Can With What You Have Where You Are.

Heading home, I thought it would be nice to stop in and pay G & W (two nonagenarian friends) a visit.  I reached for my flip phone to give G a call and see if the timing was convenient.  Oops.  No Phone.  How inconvenient.

Ok.  Plan B.  We decided to chance it, arriving at G’s door just as she’d started dinner preparations.  Imperfect timing.  Nonetheless, she invited us in for a quick visit and a few laughs.

Aah . . . that’s better!