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“X” Am In Your Beliefs February 3, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Life Balance, Mindfulness.
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IMGP1472aSome of our beliefs are lurking about in the dark.  Let’s call these sub-conscious unknown beliefs “X.”

“X” am in your beliefs.

At a sub-conscious level, “X” guide our actions and interactions with others.

It’s up to us to sort through the detritus of societal conditioning and weed out beliefs that no longer serve us by shining a spotlight on them so they can no longer lurk about in the shadows.

“X” Am In Your Beliefs . . . unless and until you Examine Your Beliefs.

Don’t believe everything you think.

The Beauty of Nothingness . . .

Aah . . . that’s better!

 

What Would You Do? February 1, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness, People.
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The-Pink-PantherThe Hypothetical:  A neighbor you’ve been friendly with for 6 years has turned decidedly frosty toward you.  You don’t know why.  You’re certain that you did nothing directly to her that should have caused the change of heart.  But whenever you see her and smile or wave, she looks right through you . . . with a frosty glare.

What would you do?

Donald-Duck-MadA.  Angrily confront her and demand an explanation:

“Who the hell do you think you are?  I’ve been nothing but nice to you and you look at me like I’m a “dog deposit” left in the middle of your driveway!”

B. Ignore her back:

“I’ll see your frosty stare.  And raise you a . . . cold shoulder.”

C.  Collapse into a puddle of tears, effectively putting the keys to your happiness in her pocket.

Donald-Duck-BaseballD. Try to open up the channels of communication:

“Hey.  I’ve noticed that you seem a bit frosty towards me in recent interactions.  I can’t think why.  Is it something we should talk about at some point?”

E. Laugh & talk about her behind her back with anyone who will listen:

“OMG!  She is being a total bitch to me.  Every time she gives me her prune face I want to burst out laughing.”

Donald-DirectorF. Nothing.  If she wants to talk about it, let her broach the discussion.

G. Move.

H. Other.  Be as creative as you want here!

So . . . what would you do?

 

Before deciding ~> Breathe * Relax * Feel * Watch * Allow.

Instead of pushing, pulling, or trying to manipulate the actions of others, we can adopt an attitude of “cheerful indifference” as we allow things to be as they are.

Aah . . . that’s better!

Related posts:  Good Enough (Roxi St. Clair) * Self Acceptance (Find Your Middle Ground)

 

 

 

Playing Tug-Of-War with Elephants January 19, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness.
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2015-03-04 14-23-45_0027Having had more than a few “dark days” when my sense of humor was MIA, I’ve learned to stop wrestling with thoughts that threaten to drown me in the abyss.

Instead of playing a losing game of tug-of-war with elephants, I “let go” of my end of the rope and walk away.

Trusting the Universe to unfold as it should until I am once again ready to steer into the wind.

Aah . . . that’s better!

“A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs. It’s jolted by every pebble on the road.”  ~ Henry Ward Beecher

Our Lady of Perpetual Displeasure January 13, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness, People.
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IMGP3881On a walk, uplifting thoughts fell on stone deaf ears.

Happiness comes first to those who are already smiling.

Blind to the good, Our Lady of Perpetual Displeasure mined a ponderous pile of grievances and gripes to regale with stale tales.

How refreshing the whinny of a pack horse fully unloaded! ~ Classic Haiku

Sometimes the teacher appears before the student is ready.

Aah . . . that’s better!

As shown by the parable of the Chinese Farmer, it pays to develop a “Maybe Mind”

 

 

Expectations Are Not Obligations January 11, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Mindfulness, People.
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220px-TaleofPeterRabbit8Some people get annoyed when their expectations aren’t met.

As if their expectations gave rise to a corresponding obligation on the recipient’s part.

Silly rabbits!

Life doesn’t work that way.

Expectations are nothing but fluff and stuff, based on mere opinions about how the world “should” be.

And, for the more grandiose among us, how it would be . . .
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“If only people would consult with us before acting like poorly educated baboons, dearth of common sense.”

Aah . . . that’s better!

I am patient with stupidity, but not with those who are proud of it. ~ Edith Sitwell

The Unblocked Mind January 5, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, Meditation, Mindfulness.
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Donald-DuckaWhen we are imprisoned by stale thoughts and emotions, we are not free.

When we are blocked by fear, guilt, anger, resentment, etc., we are not free.

But we are both jailer and jailed.

We hold the keys.

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We can choose to “let go” of anything that no longer serves us whenever it suits us.

We carry around so many memories, intentions, and concepts in the pockets of the mind. Keep emptying your pockets. ~ Writing on Water, Mooji

The unblocked mind is free to flow like a river, the wind, a breath, or a cloud with no hesitation.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. ~ Lao Tzu

The unblocked mind hears the heart when it whispers . . . Just Flow.

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Aah . . . that’s better!

Photographs & Memories December 21, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Art & Photography, Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness.
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_0001aMemories are funny beasts.

Resurrecting sad moments may encourage sorrow to re-surface.

But even the happiest memories can make us sad as we reminisce about “the way we were.”

Moreover, memories are easily misfiled, mislaid, muddled up, and manipulated.

For a fascinating (and memorable) article about the way photographs erase and distort our memories:

Shutterbug Parents and Overexposed Lives (New York Times, 2/22/15)

Cheshire_Cat_TennielWhen we disrupt an experience to capture a photo, it hinders our ability to store the memory intact.

As Dr. Linda Henkel, the noted psychologist, notes:

“We’re collecting trophies of our experiences rather than being engaged in the experiences.”

Now, smile and say, “This is NOT a Kodak moment.”

Aah . . . that’s better!

 

What Does Green Mean? December 15, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Magick & Mystery, Mindfulness, Spirit & Ego.
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Frog-CircusIf we are busy thinking, analyzing, judging, comparing, contrasting, or ruminating on Rumi, we have stepped out of pure awareness.

Instead of experiencing “this moment” directly, we are filtering “this moment” through the cloudy lens of past experience and future expectation.

We lose touch with the Now.

As we SIFT through Sensations, Images, Feelings, and Thoughts, a ticker tape of memories broadcast from the cluttered storehouse of our monkey minds causes our consciousness of experience to SHIFT.

No longer fully present in the fullness of the present moment, we hurl through crowded mental corridors populated by echoes of the past.

Now, let’s mindfully shift gears.

Imagine trying to explain “green” to someone who is color blind and has never experienced any of the colors of the rainbow.

Wow!  That would be . . . challenging.

We’re apt to become “lost in space” as we consider what “green” might mean to Hueless Hugh.

It’s no wonder we get bogged down when we ask questions like, “Who Am I?”

Instead of experiencing “I” directly, by letting go of thought (perhaps while meditating on the mantra, “I am that I am”), we engage in amusing musings about what “I” might mean.

But if we can’t explain what something as simple as “green” might mean to someone who has never experienced it, how can we hope to comprehend what “I” might mean without first experiencing it?

Green-Yin-YangTo shift back to pure awareness, we might follow Lao Tzu’s thread instead:

Just remain in the center, watching.
And then forget that you are there.
~ Lao Tzu (c.604 – 531 B.C.)

Aah . . . that’s better!

Attempting to understand consciousness with your mind is like trying to illuminate the sun with a candle. ~ White Fire, Mooji

Related post:  Mindfulness is the Opposite of Neediness (Raptitude)

Inside Out December 9, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Meditation, Mindfulness, People.
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Grumpy gusInside Out provides an Insider’s perspective on the competing emotions in our brain ~ Joy, Sadness, Fear, Disgust, and Anger.

Immersed in thoughts sent by Joy, Riley exudes joy. When Sadness takes the helm, Riley sinks.

If Fear grabs the controls, caution prevails.  With Anger calling the shots, Riley snaps at her parents.

Thoughts season our experiences and expectations.

As a quick experiment, follow one of these thoughts and observe how your reaction shifts:

Donald-Duck-BaseballA.  “I can’t believe she said that!  Who does she think she is?  I am so tired of listening to her go on and on and on about . . .”

B.  “Another terrorist attack?   Why would someone do that?  What is wrong with them?”

C.  “My To Do List is a mile long.  I’ll never get it all done.  Something’s gotta give . . . ”

Mickey-LoungingD.  “This is going to be fantastic fun!  It’s going to be a blast to catch up with everyone after all these years.  I can’t wait to see what . . .”

E.  “Om.”

Aah . . . that’s better!

When we put peace of mind ahead of all else, we discover the power that lies within. ~ Joseph V. Bailey

 

The Golden Apple December 7, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Mindfulness, People.
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The “best” thing about mindfulness is discovering who we really are under all the layers of societal and familial conditioning.

* We stop listening to our ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts).

* We no longer allow others to substitute their judgment for ours.

* We refuse to allow passers-by to manipulate us or derail our progress.

* We stop worrying about our reputation with mere acquaintances.

After all, they have an extremely limited (and skewed) perspective, whereas we have had a front row seat from Day One.

Don’t worry.  If you don’t have clarity when you begin looking within for answers, the necessary clarity will arise in due course. 

Just begin and the way will appear.

The second “best” thing that happens as we become more mindful is that we start to see others as THEY really are . . . behind their masks.

We see how people use guilt, fear, and other intimidation tactics to manipulate us to THEIR way of thinking.

For example:

If you would just STOP doing what YOU want to do and DO what I WANT you to do . . . then we could be best buds.

As subliminal messages of that ilk are issued, our internal radar perks up.

We realize we can be friends with them . . . as long as we’re willing to use their yardstick as an external reference point to guide our actions, instead of looking within to decide what to be, say, and do.

Watch out!

The proffered Golden Apple is as toxic as the shiny red orb the Wicked Queen offered to Snow White.

It’s designed to lull us to sleep.

This pretend “friend” wants us under her control and domination, looking to her for guidance!

If someone offers you a Golden Apple, don’t be fooled into accepting a bite.

(And if you do bite in, spit it out.  Fast.)

All that glitters is not gold.

The real treasure lies within.

Aah . . . that’s better!

Be who you are and say what you mean because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. ~ Dr. Seuss

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