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Six Little Stories August 31, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Life Balance, Life Lessons.
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Goofy-Under-An-Umbrella{1} Once all villagers decided to pray for rain.

On the day of prayer all the people gathered, but only one boy came with an umbrella.

That’s FAITH

{2} When you throw a baby in the air, she laughs because she knows you will catch her.

That’s TRUST

Goofy-Riding-A-Bike{3} Every night we go to bed, without any assurance of being alive the next morning but still we set the alarms to wake up.

That’s HOPE

(4) We plan big things for tomorrow in spite of zero knowledge of the future.

That’s CONFIDENCE

(5) We see the world suffering, but still we get married and have children.

That’s LOVE

grumpy_thinking{6} On an old man’s shirt was written a sentence “I am not 80 years old . . . I am sweet 16 with 64 years experience.”

That’s ATTITUDE

Aah . . . that’s better!

Source:  E-mail from unknown author (sent by Joe M.)

Giving Up The Ghost July 9, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, Life Lessons, Mindfulness.
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As we let go of the unreal, the real is revealed.

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“I am that I am.”

Look deep, the answers lie within.

Aah . . . that’s better!

Late For A Date With Fate June 30, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Life Balance, Life Lessons, Poetry, Synchronicity & Mystery.
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We hear rumblings and rumors
A madman gunning for a village

We can save them
By sounding the alarm

We race
Quickening our pace

We can’t be late
For our date with fate

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In the dark woods
We stumble upon a babe
Lost and alone
Defensiveless

Do we stop and render aid
knowing the entire village will die
If we don’t sound the alarm?

Or do we race
Quickening our pace

Refusing to be late
For our date with fate?

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Do we ever know the full impact
of choices we make

Or are we consigned to stumbling
Amid the rumblings

Of a future we can’t quite see . . .

As the petals unfold and open
One by one by one

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Aah . . . that’s better!

7 Random Thoughts & Links June 27, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Life Lessons, People.
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Hand-rolling-dice1.  Life is a crap shoot . . . and sometimes we get the Royal Flush!

Related: Caca Happens.  Wipe It Off (Brickhouse Chick)

2.  It’s a comedy of errors when we have to modify our normal ADL’s by switching to our non-dominant hand.

Related: R5 for March 8 (Views & Mews by Coffee Kat)

Huey,-Dewey-And-Louie3.  Often, when there is a tug-of-war between HIM and HER, a female confident is no more than the monkey in the middle, dismissed with a wave once peace is restored . . . because HER doesn’t want to be reminded of passing clouds.

Related: The One-Night Stand Conversation (Lively Twist)

4.  Many of us set out to change the world . . . only to find (decades later) that the world changed us.

Related: A Memory (Candid Impressions)

5.  Although a book with an attractive cover may catch our attention . . . it won’t hold it for long without a compelling story between the covers.

Related: Beauty, A First-Class Ticket (Lively Twist)

Butterfly6.  People love to label us so they know which pigeon-hole or box to shove us in . . . as if we were a butterfly to pin to a specimen board.

But we are far more than that.

No single question, occupation, or experience can encapsulate the totality of who we are.

Related:  Scaredy L. Marie (El Space)

7.  A cake (like life) always seems a bit more than the mere sum of its parts!

Related: Life Is Like . . . Cake (Find Your Middle Ground)

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Aah . . . that’s better!

Why It’s Important NOT To Give A Shit! May 25, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Humor, Life Balance, Life Lessons, People.
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In the following clip, Carlin discusses the dissonance between who he thought he was and who he really was and how he shifted mid-career from someone who was on stage to entertain by pleasing people to someone who was on stage to share his honest thoughts with the world.

One reason people claim that there are “no mistakes in life, only lessons” is because (if we pay attention), everything teaches us something.  We are always evolving, shaped by our experiences with people, places, and things:

* We try X, it doesn’t resonate, so we cross X off the list b/c X is not what we are here for.

* We try Y, it fits likes a glove, so we keep doing Y, until we are prompted to move past Y and onto Z.

I suspect Carlin didn’t feel as much dissonance at the outset of his career.  But once he saw his peers (Lenny Bruce, Bob Dylan, Buffalo Springfield, Grace Slick) shrugging off the status quo, he knew he needed to head in the same direction.

Aah . . . that’s better!

The-Pink-Panther* He who trims himself to suit everyone else will soon whittle himself away. ~ Raymond Hull

* Trust yourself and you will know how to live. ~ Goethe

* You don’t need a permission slip to live your life.

* Be who you are and say what you mean, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. ~ Dr. Seuss

Related posts: Speak Your Truth Quietly & Clearly * Letting Ourselves Be Seen * Pretence Is It Needed? (Candid Impressions)

RX For Happiness April 4, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, Life Lessons, Mindfulness.
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Robert Louis Stevenson penned this prescription for happiness:

Tree-Frog-PerchedMake up your mind to be happy.
Learn to find pleasure in simple things.

Make the best of your circumstances.
No one has everything, and everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with the gladness of life.

The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears.
Don’t take yourself too seriously.

Frog-CircusYou can’t please everybody.
Don’t let criticism worry you.

Don’t let your neighbor set your standards.
Do the things you enjoy doing, but stay out of debt.

Don’t borrow trouble. Imaginary things are harder to bear than the actual ones.

Since hate poisons the soul, do not cherish enmities and grudges.

Tree-Frog-PerchedaDon’t hold post-mortems.  Don’t spend your life brooding over sorrows and mistakes.  Don’t be one who never gets over things.

Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself.

Keep busy at something. A very busy person never has time to be unhappy.

Aah . . . that’s better!

And for an extra dose of Happy:

 

Goals: Life Preserver? Or Straight Jacket? March 11, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, Life Lessons, Mindfulness.
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Pluto-RollerskatingSometimes life seems messy, disorganized, and chaotic.  We get busy tidying it up by setting self-improvement goals for ourselves.

That’s good, right?

To always be striving to be better than our previous selves?

We may believe that goals help us reach out and become more than we already are . . . but sometimes they do just the opposite.

Instead of encouraging us to explore possibilities in the here and now, they act as straight-jackets, tethering us to what we wanted yesterday.

Who you are now is a product of what you once wanted.

TiggerFor example, what if we set the goal to do more writing and then stumble across a bunch of overripe bananas sitting on the counter?

We want to make banana bread, but we don’t have time because we haven’t met our self-imposed arbitrary word count for the day.

So we let the bananas rot, instead of pursuing their possibilities.

No wonder the cat looks at us askance.

Do goals keep us afloat . . . or drag us down?

Perhaps it depends on the goal.

Aah . . . that’s better!

Related link:  Helicone ~ Incredible Science

What If No One Is Watching? February 11, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, Life Lessons, Mindfulness.
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alice26thEgo likes accolades and acknowledgement for accomplishments, big and small.

For Ego, it’s not enough To Do or To Be for the Do-ness or Be-ness of it all.  Ego is convinced it doesn’t count if no one is watching.

Ego is in a perpetual state of “Look At Me!”

Hence the rise of Selfie Sticks.

It’s not the journey of writing, painting, singing, dancing, creating, or exploring that matters to Ego, it’s the applause of the audience, the roar of the crowd, the recognition from others that we matter.

A legacy left behind.

If I slam a door, and no one hears, should I slam it louder?

Hmm . . . that depends.  
Am I slamming it for me . . . or for them?

Remember George Costanza and the Tip Jar?  He didn’t toss a tip into the jar because he wanted the self-acknowledgment of having done so.  He wanted “them” to see him toss the tip into the jar.  He wanted recognition from others for his actions.  He wasn’t giving to give, he was giving to get.

When he realized “they” weren’t watching, he reached in to reclaim the tip for a “do over” and lost what he was trying to gain . . . his paisano’s approval.

Donald-Duck-BaseballWhat would you do if no one was watching?

Would you spend decades building the cathedral, the bridge, or the concert center if you retained your anonymity?

Living in the shadows in a state of obscurity?

With no one applauding your efforts?

You know you’ve found your bliss and are headed the right way when your spirit is soaring and work feels like play.

Even when no one is watching.

Aah . . . that’s better!

After enlightenment, the laundry. ~ Zen Proverb

Friendships Based On Mutual Distrust January 21, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Life Balance, Life Lessons, Mindfulness, People.
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IMGP3921“Offering superficial approval, passive agreement, and placating compliments is easy. Being a good friend is hard.”
~ Janna T. Writes

Yup.

When friends ask us to “be honest,” they don’t always mean it. Instead of thanking us for our honest candor, they may lash out or turn their backs on us.

That happened to me once upon a time.

A friend asked me what I thought of the guy she was dating. Everyone else (including her mother) lied to her and said he was wonderful. I told her that he seemed selfish and full of himself.

He dumped her a few months later.

At that point, everyone else (including her mother) admitted that they had NEVER liked him, that he was a complete and utter jerk, that she was better off without him, etc.

IMGP1472aAnd she was OK with their about-face.

Even though she KNEW they had intentionally lied to her, she was OK with their dishonesty.

She was NOT OK with my honesty.

She gave me the cold shoulder for YEARS, later revealing the reason why.

As I pondered her belated explanation, I decided that, if given the chance, I would not retract my words to gain her approval by lying.

Maintaining pseudo-friendships based on mutual distrust and insincere platitudes seems rather pointless.

What do you think?

Be Honest!

Aah . . . that’s better!

Related post:  Kindly Be Honest

Crossing “Feed Ego” Off Our To Do Lists January 6, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, Life Lessons, Spirit & Ego.
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Once upon a time . . .

I wanted to be a FAMOUS Rock Star.
I wanted to have OODLES of money.
I wanted to write a BEST SELLING NOVEL.

Et cetera.  Et cetera.  Et cetera.

I wanted to DO SOMETHING so that I would BE SOMEONE.

Then I woke up to the realization that to BE SOMEONE, I don’t have to DO anything.  I just need to . . . BE ME.

Broccoli-Mocking-StewieWhen our motivation for action arises from a desire to Feed Ego with accolades, approval, acclaim, acknowledgment, applause, admiration, etc., etc., etc., we are always worried about falling short of the bar (or flat on our face).

We are concerned about what “they” think of us.  We act (and re-act) to protect Ego’s fragile reputation.

Only Ego doesn’t really exist.

Once we see that Ego is imaginary, ego-driven motivation (i.e., the desire to impress) and self-doubt fall by the wayside.

We become more confident in the steps we’re taking.

We no longer feel the need to reach a predetermined destination, so we’re not worried about falling short of the mark.  We stop looking over our shoulders to see who’s watching.  We no longer seek external validation that we’re doing “it” right ~ whatever “it” is.

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Fear of failure dissipates because it no longer matters whether others are impressed with us or not.

Our locus of control shifts.
We reclaim our power.
We trust ourselves again.

Et cetera.  Et cetera.  Et cetera.

Aah . . . that’s better!

When we know WHO we are . . . we know HOW to live. ~ Goethe

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