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“X” Am In Your Beliefs February 3, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Life Balance, Mindfulness.
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IMGP1472aSome of our beliefs are lurking about in the dark.  Let’s call these sub-conscious unknown beliefs “X.”

“X” am in your beliefs.

At a sub-conscious level, “X” guide our actions and interactions with others.

It’s up to us to sort through the detritus of societal conditioning and weed out beliefs that no longer serve us by shining a spotlight on them so they can no longer lurk about in the shadows.

“X” Am In Your Beliefs . . . unless and until you Examine Your Beliefs.

Don’t believe everything you think.

The Beauty of Nothingness . . .

Aah . . . that’s better!

 

What Would You Do? February 1, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness, People.
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The-Pink-PantherThe Hypothetical:  A neighbor you’ve been friendly with for 6 years has turned decidedly frosty toward you.  You don’t know why.  You’re certain that you did nothing directly to her that should have caused the change of heart.  But whenever you see her and smile or wave, she looks right through you . . . with a frosty glare.

What would you do?

Donald-Duck-MadA.  Angrily confront her and demand an explanation:

“Who the hell do you think you are?  I’ve been nothing but nice to you and you look at me like I’m a “dog deposit” left in the middle of your driveway!”

B. Ignore her back:

“I’ll see your frosty stare.  And raise you a . . . cold shoulder.”

C.  Collapse into a puddle of tears, effectively putting the keys to your happiness in her pocket.

Donald-Duck-BaseballD. Try to open up the channels of communication:

“Hey.  I’ve noticed that you seem a bit frosty towards me in recent interactions.  I can’t think why.  Is it something we should talk about at some point?”

E. Laugh & talk about her behind her back with anyone who will listen:

“OMG!  She is being a total bitch to me.  Every time she gives me her prune face I want to burst out laughing.”

Donald-DirectorF. Nothing.  If she wants to talk about it, let her broach the discussion.

G. Move.

H. Other.  Be as creative as you want here!

So . . . what would you do?

 

Before deciding ~> Breathe * Relax * Feel * Watch * Allow.

Instead of pushing, pulling, or trying to manipulate the actions of others, we can adopt an attitude of “cheerful indifference” as we allow things to be as they are.

Aah . . . that’s better!

Related posts:  Good Enough (Roxi St. Clair) * Self Acceptance (Find Your Middle Ground)

 

 

 

Playing Tug-Of-War with Elephants January 19, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness.
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2015-03-04 14-23-45_0027Having had more than a few “dark days” when my sense of humor was MIA, I’ve learned to stop wrestling with thoughts that threaten to drown me in the abyss.

Instead of playing a losing game of tug-of-war with elephants, I “let go” of my end of the rope and walk away.

Trusting the Universe to unfold as it should until I am once again ready to steer into the wind.

Aah . . . that’s better!

“A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs. It’s jolted by every pebble on the road.”  ~ Henry Ward Beecher

Our Lady of Perpetual Displeasure January 13, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness, People.
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IMGP3881On a walk, uplifting thoughts fell on stone deaf ears.

Happiness comes first to those who are already smiling.

Blind to the good, Our Lady of Perpetual Displeasure mined a ponderous pile of grievances and gripes to regale with stale tales.

How refreshing the whinny of a pack horse fully unloaded! ~ Classic Haiku

Sometimes the teacher appears before the student is ready.

Aah . . . that’s better!

As shown by the parable of the Chinese Farmer, it pays to develop a “Maybe Mind”

 

 

The Ephemeral Grin of the Cheshire Cat January 7, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Humor, Life Balance, People.
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220px-AdvertYoungsTheHatterVictorianEraBridgeportCTI enjoy being around people who are vibrant, upbeat, and happy.

Who look at the positives at least as long as the negatives.

Who can engage in intelligent conversation.

And silly banter.

In the same laugh-riddled breath.

Without getting tangled up in pointless linguistic briars.

Who don’t stress and obsess about this, that, and the other thing.

Or even nothing at all.

* Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves for they shall never cease to be amused. ~  Unknown

Cheshire_Cat_TennielI tend to avoid those who choose to play the part of “perpetual victim.”

Without ever attempting to stand on their own four feet.

Or who try to manipulate me with strategic weapons (e.g., guilt, fear, carrots, or compliments).

While wearing insincere grins.

As ephemeral as that worn by the Cheshire Cat.

Before it vanished into thin air.

* Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed. ~ Alexander Pope

Aah . . . that’s better!

The Unblocked Mind January 5, 2016

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, Meditation, Mindfulness.
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Donald-DuckaWhen we are imprisoned by stale thoughts and emotions, we are not free.

When we are blocked by fear, guilt, anger, resentment, etc., we are not free.

But we are both jailer and jailed.

We hold the keys.

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We can choose to “let go” of anything that no longer serves us whenever it suits us.

We carry around so many memories, intentions, and concepts in the pockets of the mind. Keep emptying your pockets. ~ Writing on Water, Mooji

The unblocked mind is free to flow like a river, the wind, a breath, or a cloud with no hesitation.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. ~ Lao Tzu

The unblocked mind hears the heart when it whispers . . . Just Flow.

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Aah . . . that’s better!

I Hope He Laughs December 23, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Life Balance, People.
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Frog-CircusWe have a neighbor who loves to play the labeling game.

His view of the world is the only view of the world.

People who don’t share his perspective (like me!) are judged, labeled, and cubby-holed.

There is no room for gray in his life.

The-Pink-Panther* When he realized I did not embrace Rush Limbaugh as a modern day sage and savior, he called me a “brainwashed, socialist, communist, liberal sympathizer.”

You know . . .

A pinko!

* When he ranted about “short-sighted and misguided” environmentalists who block progress by opposing drilling for oil and gas in pristine wilderness areas, I tried to share a few thoughts on the benefits of sustainable and renewable energy sources ~ like wind and solar.

He interrupted with a snort and informed me I was “living in a dream world” and “needed to get my facts straight” because sun and wind cannot provide the energy we need “to keep moving forward.”

Shrek3He then added, free of charge, that he hated debating issues of importance with people who argue from an emotional frame of reference rather than from an intellectual point of view.

WTF? 

Did he just call me stupid???

One night at a wine tasting, he and I were seated at a table for eight when someone I’d met that evening asked me, “What do you write?”

Not wanting to get bogged down in particulars, I tossed out, “Oh, lots of things ~ poems, essays, several unfinished novels . . .”

Shrek-WavingAt that point, our neighbor jumped in with a gleeful pronouncement, “You have ADHD!”

Startled at his outburst, I replied, “No, I don’t . . .”

“Yes, you do!  You just said that you didn’t finish a project that you started!”

“So?  Not finishing a novel doesn’t mean I have ADHD.  I have no problem concentrating for sustained periods . . .”

“Then WHY didn’t you finish those novels?”

“Because I didn’t want to.”

“BECAUSE YOU HAVE ADHD!”

Pluto-RollerskatingWithout abandoning his initial hypothesis, he switched gears, “Why are you getting so defensive?  I was just being funny.”

I looked around the table and saw several mouths agape. “Really?  How come no one is laughing?”

“Because YOU ruined the party for everyone by becoming defensive for no reason.”

“And what was the alternative?  Letting you put words in my mouth and yet another label on my forehead?”

“No, you could have just laughed.  Your problem is that you don’t have a sense of humor.  You need to lighten up and stop being so serious.”

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“If you wanted me to laugh, you should have said something funny.”

Taken aback, he sputtered, “Well, this is a free country and I can say whatever I want . . .”

“Duly noted.  But, since this is a free country, we don’t have to laugh on cue.”

Donald-Duck-MadAt that point, his wife intervened and suggested we change the subject.

I nodded my agreement.

Seeing no one jumping to his defense, our freedom-loving friend switched from FIGHT to FLIGHT and beat a hasty retreat from the restaurant, his wife trailing behind.

I apologized to the rest of the table, amid a chorus of “YOU have nothing to apologize for.”

Hmm . . .

While I appreciated the show of support, it takes two to tango and I did my part to keep the dance moving in a downward spiral.

daffy_duck_boxingI could, of course, muster all sorts of justification for the barbs I’d tossed his way.  I could rationalize that he is a bully used to getting his own way, and that fighting back was the “right” thing to do.

But I won’t.

Because I saw his face as he was leaving the restaurant.

The sadness registered there made me wish I had just laughed at his initial “ADHD label” rather than engaging in a pointless debate about “nothing.”

Oh, well, live and learn.

Mickey-OKI’ve added him to my Christmas Gift List and I know exactly what to get him . . . a Dymo label-maker!

I hope he laughs.

Aah . . . that’s better!

Photographs & Memories December 21, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Art & Photography, Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness.
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_0001aMemories are funny beasts.

Resurrecting sad moments may encourage sorrow to re-surface.

But even the happiest memories can make us sad as we reminisce about “the way we were.”

Moreover, memories are easily misfiled, mislaid, muddled up, and manipulated.

For a fascinating (and memorable) article about the way photographs erase and distort our memories:

Shutterbug Parents and Overexposed Lives (New York Times, 2/22/15)

Cheshire_Cat_TennielWhen we disrupt an experience to capture a photo, it hinders our ability to store the memory intact.

As Dr. Linda Henkel, the noted psychologist, notes:

“We’re collecting trophies of our experiences rather than being engaged in the experiences.”

Now, smile and say, “This is NOT a Kodak moment.”

Aah . . . that’s better!

 

Plugged Into The Source December 3, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Life Balance, Magick & Mystery, Mindfulness, Spirit & Ego.
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220px-TaleofPeterRabbit8Intuition.  Gut Instinct.

The Sixth Sense.

A little birdie.  God.

The Universal Internet.

Having a hunch.

The Still Silent Voice.

Call it what you will, intuition grabs what the conscious mind cannot grasp and clues us in.

Guided by intuitive impulse, I flow with effortless ease from where I am Now to where I am Now.

Unconcerned about veering off course, I “let go” and “go with the flow,” confident that intuition will speak up if a course correction is needed.

Instead of a white-knuckled death grip on the rudder, I allow myself to be steered . . . like a river, wave, cloud, or breath.

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In Practical Intuition, Laura Day describes 7 Steps to harnessing intuition ~> Opening, Noticing, Pretending, Trusting, Reporting, Interpreting, and Integrating.

Of course, intuition isn’t a horse to be harnessed.  Like a cat, our sixth sense arrives on silent paws at its bidding, not ours.

To encourage it:

  1. Be Open ~ Remain awake and aware.
  2. Notice ~ Pay attention.  Listen.  Observe.
  3. Trust ~ Accept that sometimes “we just know.”

If you hear a whisper in the wind, relax.  And give the Universe some room to work its magic.

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Aah . . . that’s better!

Beyond Thought November 23, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Life Balance, Meditation, Mindfulness, Nature.
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Thoughts often pull us out of the Now, causing us to become distracted and discontent.

Unburdened by a steady stream of chatter, we experience life without a filter ~ awake, aware, alert, at ease.

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Nature helps me shift from thinking, with its perpetual analysis, judging, and weighing, to “just being” ~> sensing sights, sounds, and smells.

Until . . . thoughts creep in on padded paws and begin to negate the state I’m trying to embrace by cluttering up the space with words.

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Rather than following these passing thoughts, I allow each to drift away, and return my attention to “just being” with the wind and the waves.  Listening to life’s heartbeat.

Content again (for now), my mind settles down.

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The waterfall flows.  The clouds part.  The sun shines.  As a detached observer, I watch the Eternal Now unfold without feeling the need to steer . . .

Here I am.
Alive. Awake. Aware.
Watching the “what is” as it is.
Allowing it to be.

Beyond thought.

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Aah . . . that’s better!

Attempting to understand consciousness with your mind is like trying to illuminate the sun with a candle. ~ White Fire, Mooji

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