Healing Is Not Linear March 31, 2021
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Healing is not linear.
It is what it is.
Just breathe. Life goes on.
Don’t believe everything you think.
Aah . . . that’s better!
Spirit Lights The Way 
There are no straight lines in nature. Once upon a time I learned that fact in science. Understand that idea and life is easier.
True and True.
No straight lines but always forward with the occasional lateral.
I used to be surprised when GRIEF paid a “return visit” long after I believed the healing was done. Never a reunion I savored. Being sad is not how I want to be. Nevertheless, these days I allow it to come and go as it pleases . . . accepting that it won’t stick around for long and certainly won’t cloud my perspective for ever.
Grief and I are old friends. Sometimes he stops in to share a mocha with me. After he leaves I have to remember how great my life is no matter what.
That’s great, Kate. If we hear our thoughts think: “I’ll never get over this,” we can accept that as the “final verdict” (making it a self-fulfilling prophecy) OR we can humor that thought over a delicious mocha, shed a few tears, and then get on with the rest of our lives. The latter choice is apt to add to our net happiness.
Well said, Nancy. ❤️
Thanks!
Big smile. Thanks Nancy 😊
Thanks . . . I think! 😆
Great advice, especially the last one, which is what i need to tell myself every day
It’s tres liberating to realize that the ticker tape parade of thoughts isn’t always telling the truth!
“Don’t believe everything you think.” Of course. It’s so obvious. And yet, I’ve never heard it put that way.. Good advice.
I expect I borrowed it from someone, way back when, but it’s become part of my lexicon over time. I just googled it to see if it had a definitive attribution. Nope. It is a title of a book, the focus of several youtube videos, a bumper sticker, etc.
And it is good advice. The mind is a wonderful servant and a terrible master. Even Hamlet cautioned us:
“There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.”
Here’s to the “Maybe Mind” that challenges our definitive thoughts.
I find my body and soul are in charge here, Nancy. Not my mind. Your conversation with Kate resonated with me.💕
That’s great, Erica. I remember when I first stepped into the role of “detached observer” to watch my thoughts. I saw that thoughts often appeared and disappeared of their own volition . . . because I’d left my mind on auto-pilot.
I decided to reclaim the reins and steer my thoughts in a direction more conducive to happiness. Doing so took practice, but it was worth it ~> the mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master.
Happy Weekend!
I have been mulling on your great points here, Nancy. Detached observer versus reclaiming the reins. Happy Easter 🙂
Thanks! We had a warm and wonderful day.
So very true, Nancy! Anyone who has experienced grief, and who hasn’t, knows how the emotions can sneak up on you!
We can be sitting, mindfully minding our own business, when a nostalgic thought triggers an avalanche of grief that rains down on our countenance causing the tears to flow. Over time, I’ve learned to ride the wave, feel the sadness, and let it dissipate of its own volition.
If I try to stem the tide, it takes far longer for the sun to return.
Keep breathing!
Riding the wave! That’s a perfect visual!
Just remember to visualize your head ABOVE water. 😀