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Healing Is Not Linear March 31, 2021

Posted by nrhatch in Gratitude, Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness, People.

Healing is not linear.

It is what it is.

Just breathe.  Life goes on.

Don’t believe everything you think.

Aah . . . that’s better!



1. Ally Bean - March 31, 2021

There are no straight lines in nature. Once upon a time I learned that fact in science. Understand that idea and life is easier.

nrhatch - March 31, 2021

True and True.

2. Kate Crimmins - March 31, 2021

No straight lines but always forward with the occasional lateral.

nrhatch - March 31, 2021

I used to be surprised when GRIEF paid a “return visit” long after I believed the healing was done. Never a reunion I savored. Being sad is not how I want to be. Nevertheless, these days I allow it to come and go as it pleases . . . accepting that it won’t stick around for long and certainly won’t cloud my perspective for ever.

Kate Crimmins - April 1, 2021

Grief and I are old friends. Sometimes he stops in to share a mocha with me. After he leaves I have to remember how great my life is no matter what.

nrhatch - April 1, 2021

That’s great, Kate. If we hear our thoughts think: “I’ll never get over this,” we can accept that as the “final verdict” (making it a self-fulfilling prophecy) OR we can humor that thought over a delicious mocha, shed a few tears, and then get on with the rest of our lives. The latter choice is apt to add to our net happiness.

Erica/Erika - April 1, 2021

Well said, Nancy. ❤️

nrhatch - April 3, 2021


3. Val Boyko - March 31, 2021

Big smile. Thanks Nancy 😊

nrhatch - March 31, 2021

Thanks . . . I think! 😆

4. L. Marie - March 31, 2021

Great advice, especially the last one, which is what i need to tell myself every day

nrhatch - March 31, 2021

It’s tres liberating to realize that the ticker tape parade of thoughts isn’t always telling the truth!

5. Behind the Story - April 1, 2021

“Don’t believe everything you think.” Of course. It’s so obvious. And yet, I’ve never heard it put that way.. Good advice.

nrhatch - April 1, 2021

I expect I borrowed it from someone, way back when, but it’s become part of my lexicon over time. I just googled it to see if it had a definitive attribution. Nope. It is a title of a book, the focus of several youtube videos, a bumper sticker, etc.

And it is good advice. The mind is a wonderful servant and a terrible master. Even Hamlet cautioned us:

“There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.”

Here’s to the “Maybe Mind” that challenges our definitive thoughts.

6. Erica/Erika - April 1, 2021

I find my body and soul are in charge here, Nancy. Not my mind. Your conversation with Kate resonated with me.💕

nrhatch - April 3, 2021

That’s great, Erica. I remember when I first stepped into the role of “detached observer” to watch my thoughts. I saw that thoughts often appeared and disappeared of their own volition . . . because I’d left my mind on auto-pilot.

I decided to reclaim the reins and steer my thoughts in a direction more conducive to happiness. Doing so took practice, but it was worth it ~> the mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master.

Happy Weekend!

Erica/Erika - April 4, 2021

I have been mulling on your great points here, Nancy. Detached observer versus reclaiming the reins. Happy Easter 🙂

nrhatch - April 4, 2021

Thanks! We had a warm and wonderful day.

7. Debra - April 5, 2021

So very true, Nancy! Anyone who has experienced grief, and who hasn’t, knows how the emotions can sneak up on you!

nrhatch - April 6, 2021

We can be sitting, mindfully minding our own business, when a nostalgic thought triggers an avalanche of grief that rains down on our countenance causing the tears to flow. Over time, I’ve learned to ride the wave, feel the sadness, and let it dissipate of its own volition.

If I try to stem the tide, it takes far longer for the sun to return.

Keep breathing!

Debra - April 6, 2021

Riding the wave! That’s a perfect visual!

nrhatch - April 6, 2021

Just remember to visualize your head ABOVE water. 😀

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