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Thoughts on Thoughts August 19, 2020

Posted by nrhatch in Gratitude, Happiness, Life Balance, Mindfulness.

Only one thing stands in the way of our happiness.

The thoughts that we think.

Need some pointers?

The NY Times has a great article on How To Be Happy . . . which starts (and ends) with managing the thoughts we think:

Practice Optimism

Optimism is part genetic, part learned. Even if you were born into a family of gloomy Guses, you can still find your inner ray of sunshine. Optimism doesn’t mean ignoring the reality of a dire situation. After a job loss, for instance, many people may feel defeated and think, “I’ll never recover from this.” An optimist would acknowledge the challenge in a more hopeful way, saying, “This is going to be difficult, but it’s a chance to rethink my life goals and find work that truly makes me happy.”

When we accept life as it is with cheerful indifference, nothing disturbs us.

We stop struggling against the current and allow things to be as they are.

We just go with the flow.

Aah . . . that’s better!


1. Val Boyko - August 19, 2020

I read that article Nancy – it’s a good one💛 Have a happy day my friend 😎

nrhatch - August 19, 2020

You too, Val. I’m in the midst of Round 137 of Clearing Clutter and making S~P~A~C~E for energy to flow.

It’s Groovy, Baby!

Val Boyko - August 19, 2020

Keep feeling the groove Nancy 💕

2. Ally Bean - August 19, 2020

I was pessimistic when I was younger, but over the years I’ve lightened up and found that optimism, tempered with a healthy dose of reality, makes me happier.

nrhatch - August 19, 2020

Me too, Ally. When I smile and laugh, I am happier . . . so I’m always on the lookout for something that tickles my funny bone chakra.

3. Jill Weatherholt - August 19, 2020

Life is difficult enough. In my experience, being unhappy takes up a lot more energy. Writing is my path to happiness. Once you get it down on paper, you can let it go. Great article, Nancy!

nrhatch - August 19, 2020

Writing can be a useful tool in turning our thoughts in the direction we want them to head. Write on!

4. philosophermouseofthehedge - August 19, 2020

Better to work with nature than against it. Yep wisdom in that old accept things you can’t change – like you say, know when to float.

nrhatch - August 19, 2020

Funny you should say that, PM.

Last night we watched Mr. Brooks (a Kevin Costner / Demi Moore film from 2007). Mr. Brooks is a psychopath who attends 12-step meetings for his “addiction.” Throughout the movie, he recites the Serenity Prayer in a somewhat futile effort to keep himself from killing again. 😯

philosophermouseofthehedge - August 19, 2020

HA HA How ironic. Some need something a little stronger – or some message that actually gets internalized – to get the desired result?
On another note, there are some who simply can’t “talk themselves into” or choose to be happy – those are really at risk. Genetics or body chemistry still not understood or managed very well.
Humans are so complex. It’s killing us HAHA!

nrhatch - August 19, 2020

Good point. Most of us have far more control over our thoughts than we think . . . but like height, weight, and the propensity to visit crowded bars during a pandemic, we’re not all alike. Some have greater mind control than others.

It helps to remember that “the mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master.”

Oh, did I forget to mention that Mr. Brooks has an imaginary friend who accompanies him on each killing spree? 😀

5. Rivergirl - August 19, 2020

Worrying never solved anything, yet we all do it from time to time.
I don’t really consider myself an optimist, but very little truly gets me down anymore.

nrhatch - August 19, 2020

The general trend in life (as we age) seems to be toward greater equanimity and acceptance of the hardballs tossed our way.

We learn to RIDE the waves instead of getting tossed about.

6. Kate Crimmins - August 19, 2020

Letting go is usually the answer but it’s not always easy. Sometimes when I realize I’m not happy I ask if I can change it. If I can’t, I let it go.

nrhatch - August 19, 2020

Good plan, Kate!

“You can only be a victim once. After that you’re a volunteer.” That said, it’s amazing how many “volunteers” there are ~> I’ve known people who keep their hurt feelings “front & center” for decades. Far better to wash off yesterday’s junque and get on with today!

Kate Crimmins - August 19, 2020

Absolutely! Too exhausting!

7. Erica/Erika - August 19, 2020

Nancy, Your opening sentences say a great deal in few words. Elizabeth Gilbert is a wise soul.🙂 “Cheerful indifference” is a new phrase for me. I will mull on that one. “…go with the flow” is a good reminder. I appreciate your thoughts on thoughts, Nancy. Good stuff! 💕

nrhatch - August 20, 2020

I’ve often used the moniker of “disinterested bystander” . . . but I like the idea of “cheerful indifference” better.

After all, we don’t know what “good” can flow from “bad” OR what “bad” can flow from “good.”

Here’s Alan Watts on the “Maybe Mind” . . .

Erica/Erika - August 21, 2020

Nancy, Thank you for bringing Alan Watts into my radar. I became lost in a few of his videos this morning. Thought-provoking in a good way. 💕

nrhatch - August 21, 2020

I thought you might enjoy a dose of Alan Watts. I LOVE his videos . . . his voice and thoughts resonate with me.

8. Kellie - August 20, 2020

Great post thank you and love the pic!

nrhatch - August 20, 2020

I snapped that photo of blue jellies at Mote Marine Aquarium in Sarasota. Watching them floating and flowing = mesmerizing!

9. L. Marie - August 22, 2020

As usual, Nancy, you provided some great thoughts. I’ve caught myself several times focusing on negative news. It really takes effort to o turn your mind to something else. But doing so is worth it.

nrhatch - August 22, 2020

Thanks, LM. Like other “life proficiencies” . . . it takes practice (and, for me, LOTS of reminders).

10. anotherday2paradise - August 23, 2020

I believe it was Abe Lincoln who said, “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” So true. I love that contented cat. ❤

nrhatch - August 23, 2020

I believe it was Lincoln.

Here’s another fave: “Be happy while you’re living, for you’re a long time dead.” ~ Scottish Proverb 😀

11. roughwighting - September 1, 2020

Love this! And it goes with my post and your answer to what you’ve discovered about yourself lately. I agree with you (and several of your readers here). I’ve become more joyful as I’ve gotten older. I don’t sweat the small stuff as much, because golly, there is an awful lot of “small stuff” floating around. So ignore them and smell the roses instead!

nrhatch - September 1, 2020

It’s so nice to wake up each day . . . ready to smell the roses!

roughwighting - September 2, 2020

Glory be to the WORLD, and us in it! ❤

nrhatch - September 2, 2020

I feel like breaking out into song!

12. SaaniaSparkle 🧚🏻‍♀️ - September 2, 2020

Nice blog!

nrhatch - September 2, 2020

Good thought! 😆

13. relaxitsallwrite - October 7, 2020

“Stop struggling against the current and allow things to be as they are.” Easier said than done, but necessary. The alternative: A mouth, gasping to breathe. A body, desperate to stay afloat. A will, exhausted by a fruitless fight. No alternative but to drown. Though it seems a simple concept, it rarely is. But, once you let go, relax, allow the current to naturally move you to your next stage, you’ll have the strength to tackle it. Wonderful post, thank you.

nrhatch - October 7, 2020

Glad you enjoyed my thoughts on thoughts. More often than not, having the “right” thoughts leading to taking the “right” action ~ including floating with the current instead of against it.

That said, sometimes the status quo (especially on the political front) begs to be changed. 😛

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