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Yes, I Am Postive! December 5, 2019

Posted by nrhatch in Gratitude, Happiness, Life Balance, Mindfulness.
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Want to be a more positive person . . . along with all the perky perks that entails?

Here are 6 tips:

Reframe or Divert ~ Accept what you cannot change. You can shake your fist at the sky all you want, but it won’t stop the rain from falling.  Look for opportunities among the obstacles.  Find the silver lining.

Savor the Good ~ Focus on the positives.  Enjoy the luxury of a sunny day. Relish your meal.  Enjoy the tastes, sights, and sounds around you.  Be Mindful of the present of the present.

Set Reminders ~ Flexing your positivity muscle is a habit-in-the-making. Posting post-its around to remind yourself to see the good is a good way to shift your focus from “what’s wrong” to “what’s right.”

Do Something Nice for Someone Else ~ Sometimes the best way to improve our day is to improve someone else’s day.  So be kind to others and enjoy the boomerang effect of those positive feelings.

Phone A Friend ~ Knowing that someone has your back can be an automatic mood booster.  When you’re down in the dumps, don’t dump a pile on negativity of your friend’s shoulder.  Instead, boost your view by piggy-backing on his or her positivity for a while until your own resilience returns.

Say Thanks ~ An attitude of gratitude improves our aptitude and altitude in life.  When we shift our perspective from “what’s wrong” to “what’s right,” we feel an immediate shift from negative to positive.  It’s not what happens that determines our mood, it’s how we CHOOSE to view what’s happened.  Developing an attitude of gratitude pays BIG dividends.

Aah . . . that’s better!

To read more:  How To Be A More Positive Person (TIME)

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1. Jill Weatherholt - December 5, 2019

Great tips, especially for this time the year!

nrhatch - December 5, 2019

This joyous season is not all joy all the time . . . just ask any Black Friday shopper who gets shoved/shunted aside in the race to the biggest bargains.

Here’s to the positives ~ like WASSAIL!

2. Tippy Gnu - December 5, 2019

Another rule: Rob a bank, start counterfeiting, or otherwise make lots of money. Money can’t buy happiness, but it sure makes a good downpayment.

anotherday2paradise - December 5, 2019

🤣😂

nrhatch - December 5, 2019

Good point, TG. Just ask Robin Williams, Anthony Bourdain, and Kate Spade how money bought them more happiness than they could stand.

Oh, wait. You can’t.

Tippy Gnu - December 5, 2019

Maybe I’ll buy a Ouija board.
No, I agree, money doesn’t buy happiness. But it can pay bills that allow one to live comfortably, which can help someone to be happy.
Also, I doubt positive thinking can reliably produce happiness. It can help, certainly, but I believe it also helps to acknowledge the negative aspects of life. That helps us to deal with dangers more effectively. Which then helps us to be happy.

nrhatch - December 5, 2019

Agreed.

3. Rivergirl - December 5, 2019

I tend to be a Tigger.
Life is good!

nrhatch - December 5, 2019

Stay that way, RG. The view is better from up there!

4. colonialist - December 5, 2019

*sob, weep, wail* Yes, I am fully positive — that I am a miserable failure! *sniffle*

nrhatch - December 5, 2019

Hmm . . . where is Mr. Rogers when you need him? I’m sure he’d have a heart-felt expression of sympathy/empathy for you. At the least, he’d say, “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?”

5. L. Marie - December 6, 2019

Such great advice, Nancy! In an age of social media vitriol, positive people are absolutely needed.

nrhatch - December 6, 2019

Thanks, LM! Here’s to being positive ions in a sea of negativity!

6. Barb - December 9, 2019

Yeah, I’m consciously working on the gratitude approach this week. I don’t know if it’s increased my positivity, but I certainly have discovered a lot more blessings surround me than I had a clue. It helps me focus on others’ efforts.(i.e. the person who came in to work at 5am, so I could have my coffee at 6am.; the gal who let me turn into a long line of traffic; the guy who wouldn’t let me change lanes—I’m thankful I’m not in as big of a hurry as I assume he was, etc.)

nrhatch - December 9, 2019

I feel better when I am mindful of the small “boosts and nudges” we get and give.

Maybe that guy was in a hurry to ransom his Teddy Bear? 😀

7. Debra - December 10, 2019

All wonderful suggestions, Nancy. I think some of us were raised by parents who instilled these ideals as routine parts of our daily lives. I wonder about young families today. I don’t hear these qualities discussed as openly as I think I once did. I’m always grateful for a reminder. 🙂

nrhatch - December 10, 2019

Let’s face it, Debra ~> our parents were better at parenting so WE are better, happier, smarter, and wiser people! 😆

Jests aside, I tend to agree. When two parents are working, flying at the speed of sound, something gets lost in the mix. Even just sitting down for dinner AS A FAMILY pays dividends for kids.

8. lisakunk - December 24, 2019

Amén.

nrhatch - December 24, 2019

And when all else fails ~ order Chinese Take Out. Hold the dairy, gluten, and meat! 😀


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