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Why It’s Important NOT To Give A Shit! May 25, 2015

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Humor, Life Balance, People.

In the following clip, Carlin discusses the dissonance between who he thought he was and who he really was and how he shifted mid-career from someone who was on stage to entertain by pleasing people to someone who was on stage to share his honest thoughts with the world.

One reason people claim that there are “no mistakes in life, only lessons” is because (if we pay attention), everything teaches us something.  We are always evolving, shaped by our experiences with people, places, and things:

* We try X, it doesn’t resonate, so we cross X off the list b/c X is not what we are here for.

* We try Y, it fits likes a glove, so we keep doing Y, until we are prompted to move past Y and onto Z.

I suspect Carlin didn’t feel as much dissonance at the outset of his career.  But once he saw his peers (Lenny Bruce, Bob Dylan, Buffalo Springfield, Grace Slick) shrugging off the status quo, he knew he needed to head in the same direction.

Aah . . . that’s better!

The-Pink-Panther* He who trims himself to suit everyone else will soon whittle himself away. ~ Raymond Hull

* Trust yourself and you will know how to live. ~ Goethe

* You don’t need a permission slip to live your life.

* Be who you are and say what you mean, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. ~ Dr. Seuss

Related posts: Speak Your Truth Quietly & Clearly * Letting Ourselves Be Seen * Pretence Is It Needed? (Candid Impressions)



1. Hariod Brawn - May 25, 2015

I think the drift of maturation is towards authenticity, and if so, then we can either allow the process to unfold naturally to the extent that it will, or accelerate it through self-awareness practices. Of course, some of us remain forever stupid. 🙄

nrhatch - May 25, 2015

Yes. Our essential nature, like the wateriness of water, does not change. What changes is our capacity to share that essential nature with the world.

* And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud, was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~ Anais Nin

Eileen - May 25, 2015

Love that quote particularly.

nrhatch - May 26, 2015

Flowers just grow!

L. Marie - May 26, 2015

Ha. Your comment made me smile.

Hariod Brawn - May 26, 2015

Nancy’s or mine L. Marie?

nrhatch - May 26, 2015

Linda loved your comment, Hariod ~ see #5 below. No doubt she’s met someone who is “forever stupid.” :mrgreen:

2. Pix Under the Oaks - May 25, 2015

Interesting from Mr. Carlin.
* He who trims himself to suit everyone else will soon whittle himself away. ~ Raymond Hull… this really hits home for me the last couple of weeks and particularly this weekend. Been doing some BIG thinking 🙂
Good Morning, Nancy!

nrhatch - May 25, 2015

Morning, Pix! I’ve got another one for you to chew on:

People who urge you to be realistic generally want you to accept their version of reality. ~ Unknown

Pix Under the Oaks - May 25, 2015

Yes. And the Dr. Seuss quote… big! BIG!

Pix Under the Oaks - May 25, 2015

Seuss* I should never comment before noon.

nrhatch - May 25, 2015

All fixed!

3. Kate Crimmins - May 25, 2015

I have always loved George because he said what people thought. For some people it takes longer to get to who they are and some people never make it (or they really are that really saccharin sweet people pleaser without an opinion of their own). It is really great when you understand this and are on the right journey. Love your last quote by unknown. Have a great holiday!

nrhatch - May 25, 2015

Thanks, Kate. So far, so good.

And agreed! Some people get from who they are to who they want to be by following their inner voice. Others get lost along the way by using an external reference point (i.e., constantly looking over their shoulders to see what “they” think).

4. NancyTex - May 25, 2015

“A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.”
— Zen Shin

nrhatch - May 25, 2015

Yes! Now we’re cooking . . .

* Nature does not ask, “what do they want me to be?” Its beauty lies in its authenticity.

* Don’t worry about what the world wants from you. Focus on what makes you feel more fully alive. What the world really needs are people who are fully alive. ~ Joseph Campbell

* Trust yourself and you will know how to live. ~ Goethe

* Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

* To be nobody but yourself ~ in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else ~ means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting. ~ e.e.cummings

* Always remember that you don’t have to be what they want you to be. ~ Mohammad Ali

* Turn the spotlight inward. ~ Gandhi

* To thine own self be true. ~ Polonius (in Shakespeare’s Hamlet)

5. L. Marie - May 25, 2015

A very thought-provoking post, Nancy. Loved Hariod Brawn’s comment. 🙂
I’ve followed George Carlin’s career off and on, so it’s interesting to learn how he tried to fit in, but realized he couldn’t. I’ve felt the same way about publishing–trying to fit in and not being myself. So I’m trying to write stories that are truly me.

nrhatch - May 25, 2015

Yes! Write the book that only YOU can write and YOUR audience will find you.

6. William D'Andrea - May 26, 2015

When I first read your title, I wondered if you were channeling our old lost friend, and my former collaborator Andalib Marx. It certainly sounds like her. She was someone else who was also honest about herself, but unlike most garbage mouthed people, I found thoroughly likeable.

nrhatch - May 26, 2015

Yup. Andi was a Real Character! :mrgreen:

William D'Andrea - May 27, 2015

As long as the book that she and I wrote exists, she will always be alive for me, on every one of its pages.

7. Jill Weatherholt - May 26, 2015

*”You don’t need a permission slip to live your life.” Amen Sister! 🙂

nrhatch - May 26, 2015

Write on!

8. Val Boyko - May 26, 2015

Great quotes Nancy!
I love George Carlin and am a huge fan of his authentic humor. Reminds me of you and Hariod 😉

nrhatch - May 26, 2015

Thanks, Val! From me and Hariod!

9. beeblu - May 27, 2015

It’s a pity that so few of us learn this when we’re young.

nrhatch - May 27, 2015

It’s often a case of the blind leading the blind ~> by the time one generation realizes that measuring “success” with an external yardstick doesn’t work . . . the next generation has already been indoctrinated into the fold.

10. Tiny - May 27, 2015

Oh, this is so good and so true, Nancy. Love the Hull quote in particular!

nrhatch - May 27, 2015

Here’s to hearing and heeding the inner voice without undue concern for what others would choose if they stood in our shoes.

11. Three Well Beings - June 2, 2015

What an amazing interview, Nancy! Such an honest assessment of his own growth over time and his realizations are important! I really got a lot out of this. It ought to be required viewing in college classrooms…high school, even!

nrhatch - June 2, 2015

There is so much we could be teaching in school that would “advance the ball.” In one place I read about, they teach meditation to the first and second graders. That’s sure to make them better students (and citizens).

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