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The Ebb & Flow of Friendships January 2, 2014

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, People.
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Tiggers-R-UsOn our way from THERE to HERE, we enjoy the company of thousands of people who add light, love, and laughter to life.

Imagine them all crowded into the space you occupy here and now.

Would you have room to breathe?

Envision all your grade school, high school, college, and graduate school friends tugging on your sleeves to get you to “come out and play.”

Add in your relatives (dead or alive), co-workers (from every job you ever had, including kids you babysat for and homeowners whose lawns you mowed), and friends from every port of call.

Each and every one of them requiring time and attention.

Starting to feel a bit claustrophobic?

BFF and I have moved around a bunch.  We do not have room in our lives for all the people who came and went before.

Not if we want to negotiate the space we currently inhabit.

7dwarfsWe keep in touch with interested friends and acquaintances through phone, e-mail, FB, and the annual exchange of Christmas cards, but we’ve lived and worked in so many places that we tend to “let go” as soon as they do.

We figure they were in our life for a “season” and now the season is over.

Friendships come and go, they ebb and flow like the tides.  We drift together and then drift apart.


I’ve noticed the same happens in cyber-space.  We follow blogs for a time, and then press “unsubscribe.”

Letting go is part of life.

After all, if we hang on to the past with both hands, how can we open the present?

Aah . . . that’s better!

How about you?  Do you find it hard to let go of people, places, and things?