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Being Better Not Bitter September 15, 2013

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Mindfulness, Nature, Spirit & Ego.

Forgiveness of ourselves and others is one of the essential keys to happiness.


It’s hard to be happy while carting around a bucket full of bitterness.


We travel best when we travel light.

Aah . . . that’s better!

Related posts:  Awakening to the SacredBuddhist Prayer of Forgiveness (Love Is The Answer)


1. Piglet in Portugal - September 15, 2013

Your words are so true, Nancy. It’s easier to be bitter and harbour evil thoughts than to forgive. Inner peace comes from calm and being at peace with the world – not at odds with it 🙂

nrhatch - September 15, 2013

Thanks, PiP. With practice, we realize that “setting down our bitterness” lightens the load and make life easier . . . and more FUN!

2. Maggie - September 15, 2013

I needed this reminder today. 🙂

nrhatch - September 15, 2013

Yay! Nothing like a timely reminder when we get “stuck.”

3. Pix Under the Oaks - September 15, 2013

So very true Nancy.

nrhatch - September 15, 2013

Even if I choose to remember “the event” I try to let go of the negative emotions (anger, resentment, guilt, frustration).

aah . . . that’s better!

4. cecilia - September 15, 2013

SO TRUE! fantastic reminder.. c

nrhatch - September 15, 2013

Thanks, Cecilia. It feels great to set down our “heavy burdens” as we continue on the path.

cecilia - September 15, 2013

I know it, or at the very least set them aside for a while.. c

nrhatch - September 15, 2013

Yes! It frees up energy for more interesting pursuits than harboring stale grievances.

5. Grannymar - September 15, 2013

‘We travel best when we travel light.’ Yes, both physically and mentally!

nrhatch - September 15, 2013

I don’t always “forget” (and once bitten, twice shy) . . . but I do tend to forgive asap. It’s just easier than trying to keep track of the score.

6. Booksphotographsandartwork - September 15, 2013

Very much so. Sometimes it can’t be accomplished but when it can it is great. I had just such a situation a few days ago that if I had not chosen the high road it would have ruinous for our family.

nrhatch - September 15, 2013

Awesome! I generally choose the high road . . . the view is better!

7. Tom Merriman - September 15, 2013

Very true, Nancy, nothing better than having a weight lifted!

nrhatch - September 15, 2013

It feels good to be forgiving.

8. Paula Tohline Calhoun - September 15, 2013

Failing and refusing to forgive is one of the fastest ways to the grave that I know of and is far more hurtful and harmful to the unforgiver than to the unforgiven. Ashley and I are currently in the midst of watching such a drama unfold before our eyes and hearts, and it is grievous indeed to witness. Hard especially for me, who likes to fancy herself the “fixer!” Oh, well. . .the curious, mystical commodity called time will have to be the arbiter of this sad tale, and I will have to learn to (shudder-shudder) shut up! 😉

nrhatch - September 15, 2013

This must be very difficult for the fixer in you, PTC. When I see people turning “hardship” into misery (or nurturing old wounds), it’s so tempting to shake them until they WAKE UP! 😕

9. lindalitebeing - September 15, 2013

This theme of clearing, letting go, and forgiveness is circulating on WordPress now. I cannot hear this message often enough, thanks!

nrhatch - September 16, 2013

Oh, good. Most of us need periodic reminders as we proceed along the path from where we are to where we want to be.

10. Tammy - September 16, 2013

So so true. I have a similar blog coming which you will immediately recognize. Howsoever, my photo is not nearly as lovely.

nrhatch - September 16, 2013

Cool! I look forward to catching up with you and others after my “weekend away.” We had a FUN time with our guests but it seems “ages” since I’ve had a chance to surf my favorite blogs.

11. jannatwrites - September 16, 2013

Traveling light really is the way to go. Bitterness is a heavy burden.

nrhatch - September 16, 2013

I decided this weekend that my memory is “too good.” There are things I remember that I would rather FORGET FOR GOOD. 😕

12. sufilight - September 16, 2013

So true! The bird looks light and free. Thanks for the pingback. 🙂

nrhatch - September 16, 2013

Thanks, Marie. I enjoyed your Buddhist Prayer ~ it seemed a perfect link for a pingback.

13. spilledinkguy - September 16, 2013

Seems to make sense to me, Nancy! I love the photos, too – it looks like an incredibly relaxing place to be!

nrhatch - September 16, 2013

Thanks, SiG. It is a relaxing and inspiring place to live. So glad we moved here 4 years ago.

Spent the weekend with a guest who had never seen the Gulf Coast of Florida before ~ FUN to see it through his eyes.

14. oneworld1day - September 16, 2013

Reblogged this on inspire4better.

15. Three Well Beings - September 17, 2013

What a peaceful photo to accompany such sage advice!

nrhatch - September 17, 2013

I’m still in love with the views around here. We had fun showing the area to our friends (G&T) this weekend.

16. shreejacob - September 18, 2013

I just read a post on Karen’s blog about forgiveness too! I loved a line she used which basically says that forgiveness is not about being okay about what was done but to learn to detach from it and letting it go!

nrhatch - September 18, 2013

Yes! It’s that calm, centered, detachment that we’re seeking. We don’t have to forget to forgive . . . we just need to unplug the negative emotions so we can move forward.

17. bluebee - September 18, 2013

That elegant bird is living in the moment. Beautiful photos. Love the one with his leg stretched out.

nrhatch - September 18, 2013

Glad you liked this elegant egret. We enjoy watching the birds around here.

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