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Torn Asunder October 26, 2012

Posted by nrhatch in Life Balance, Mindfulness.

Wikipedia ~ Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde (in Public Domain)

Have you ever been pulled in two  (or more) directions at once due to  competing demands for your time and attention?

Me neither.

Have you ever tried to be all things to all people all of the time?

How’d that work out for ya?
Exhausting, right?

Have you seriously considered cloning yourself so you could be in two places at one time?

Are you becoming a split personality?

A Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, if you will?

When we look to others to guide our actions, our priorities often get lost in the shuffle.

We are torn asunder by competing and conflicting input and demands.

Sometimes, when we are lost in the trees, it helps to step back and ponder the forest as a whole.

That often provides the clarity we need to see our “next best step.”

IMGP2584bWhen we look within for guidance, our steps are sure as we allow the path to unfold before us.  The way teaches us the way . . . when we stop swimming against the current.

A few quotes to ponder:

* Always remember that you don’t have to be what they want you to be. ~ Mohammad Ali

* To thine own self be true. ~ Polonius (in Shakespeare’s Hamlet)

Nature does not ask, “what do they want me to be?”  Its glory lies in its authenticity.

To be nobody but yourself ~ in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else ~ means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting. ~ e.e.cummings

Know thyself. ~ Oracle of Apollo at Delphi, Greece

When we understand who we really are, we free ourselves from the illusions that hold us back.

Turn the spotlight inward. ~ Gandhi

Don’t worry about what the world wants from you.  Focus on what makes you feel more fully alive. What the world really needs are people who are fully alive. ~ Joseph Campbell

Trust yourself and you will know how to live. ~ Goethe

People are unhappy because they aren’t being truthful with themselves.   Being truthful with yourself plugs you into your inner power. ~ Suze Orman

When you stop hiding who you are, you have more energy to become more fully who you want to be.

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Aah . . . that’s better!

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1. suzicate - October 26, 2012

Ah yes, I am looking within (and doing a great deal of listening) as I’m trying to connect my dots on this project.

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Often, when I am stalled mid-project, I find it’s because the project was never a true priority for me.

Good luck connecting the dots, Suzi!

2. speccy - October 26, 2012

I was ready to hear that 🙂 Thank you!

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Yay! There is nothing like a timely post to get the weekend off to the right start.

Enjoy! :mrgreen:

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Your blog name ties in nicely with this:

Me Mine and Other Bits. 😉

3. love1salluneed - October 26, 2012

How true……….you put into words how I feel sometimes. Then I gather myself to myself and become ‘me’ myself and I again.

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Good for you!

You’re “Me Myself and I” . . . Speccy’s “Me Mine and Other Bits.” 😀

4. Hudson Howl - October 26, 2012

Good shtufffs, you! After reading I feel optimistic, hard to practice and to put into place when one feels distracted and taxed though. But worth an effort even if the gains are small at first. It probably takes a life time to find the ‘self’, doesn’t it?

Can identify with ‘Always remember that you don’t have to be what they want you to be. ~ Mohammad Ali’

As an enigma I suppose I could cut and paste myself to meet the needs, but that would seem like cheating. Alas, reality keeps me in check there is no escaping it. Self expression I think, no wait, I know it is my ticket. I suspect it is for many.

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Wonderful comment, HH! For many, it does take a lifetime of exploration to fully unearth the “self” (in part because it’s not a static entity). We are always changing, growing, and evolving in response to stimuli . . . even when we think we’re stagnating.

Tapping in to our inner power is best practiced when we are NOT feeling overly distracted and taxed. Then, we are able to access the right technique to sort things out when we are feeling a bit plowed under.

And, yes, self expression and creativity are the ticket, for sure!

5. Tom (Aquatom1968) - October 26, 2012

Great quotes there Nancy! I like anything that helps me to feel good!

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Me too! It’s nice to give ourselves permission to “just be” for a time, eh?

6. Pocket Perspectives - October 26, 2012

thanks, Nancy….you expressed what I felt in the midst of this past weekend…torn asunder….but was able to step back and choose, rather than just tumbling in the potential confusion of those “competing and conflicting input and demands.”

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Sometimes the best thing to do is take ONE GIANT STEP BACK and realize that we don’t have to play “Mother, May I?” for the rest of our life.

Sounds like you handled the situation like a pro, Kathy.

7. Barbara Backer-Gray - October 26, 2012

Hi there, thanks for following my blog.

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Love your post and am delighted to find someone who is “so right.” 😉

8. sweetdaysundertheoaks - October 26, 2012

This post really fits for me tonight. I suddenly feel off the hook with another matter/situation. Thank you!

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Oh, good! We need to let ourselves “off the hook” now and again, Pix. Life need not be a “matter of life and death” all the time. :mrgreen:

sweetdaysundertheoaks - October 26, 2012

You will love this Nancy, it was one of those deals where if I don’t do this they won’t like me, I have done something to make them mad at me. Woe is me. Finally I just exhausted myself and then I read this and said “so what”.

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Yay, you! That’s the attitude. Be like Elizabeth Bennett:

There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear to be frightened at the will of others. My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me.

~ Elizabeth Bennet, Pride and Prejudice, ch. 31

9. Tammy - October 26, 2012

I was just saying that I don’t have enough time to spend it with people that I don’t enjoy.

nrhatch - October 26, 2012

Unless we’re getting compensated for our time, it’s best to focus on hanging with people whose company invigorates us ~ while staying away from the energy drains. 😉

10. theonlycin - October 27, 2012

Thank you, Nancy, my life is chaos at the moment, so I’m printing this post to put on my pin board in front of my desk. xxx

nrhatch - October 27, 2012

Hi Cin! It’s good to see you. When our life is “de-railed” with major disasters and minor catastrophes, it takes time to get back on track.

Keep chugging along.

11. jannatwrites - October 27, 2012

Ha! I haven’t considered cloning, but I have thought about disappearing!

At the moment I’m looking within about something I was asked to do but don’t really want to. Perhaps not doing it is being selfish, or maybe the request was unreasonable to begin with. Will sleep on it 🙂

nrhatch - October 27, 2012

People are adept at making us feel selfish for not doing what THEY want us to do. :mrgreen:

As a species, we are easily manipulated by fear, guilt, and social opinion. Rolling IT around and sleeping on IT may help you see YOUR next best step. Good luck!

12. sufilight - October 27, 2012

Beautiful post, the type of topic I love. I have noticed on occasion, guidance comes to me in the form of unexpected thoughts, sometimes with wording I hardly use. This gets my attention. 😎

nrhatch - October 27, 2012

Yes! I have often bumped into exactly the thought I needed to think when I needed to thunk it! Thanks!

13. sufilight - October 27, 2012

The 8) in my comments was supposed to be a smiley with shades. Oh, well. 🙂

nrhatch - October 27, 2012

I fixed it for you. I make one with : cool : (without the spaces). 😎

sufilight - October 27, 2012

Thanks! 😎

14. kateshrewsday - October 27, 2012

Fantastic post, Nancy. I wish I had read this yesterday: being true to oneself can be hard when you are surrounded by the new. The temptation is to be a chameleon: but is Joseph Campbell right, or is he right? Bravo!

nrhatch - October 27, 2012

I love that quote, Kate. (A similar quote is attributed to Lawrence Le Shan . . . so I’m not sure who said what first.)

Either way, if we each select only the projects, activities, and causes which interest us most, the ones that touch our hearts, we funnel our energy (instead of diffusing it) ~ increasing the odds that we will be sharing the “best parts of ourselves.”

15. Three Well Beings - October 27, 2012

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. ~ Mahatma Gandhi–that’s my favorite from your rich list! I have been saying lately that I have figured out how to be in two places at one time, but it’s the third that trips me up. I doing too much and I’m too scattered…your post is very timely! I needed it.

nrhatch - October 28, 2012

You’re not alone, Debra. Seems like several of us have been overdoing IT or feeling guilty for not doing ALL of IT. We benefit ourselves and everyone we know and love when we don’t spread ourselves too thin.

Aah . . . that’s better. _/!\_

16. Perfecting Motherhood - October 31, 2012

I love that Ali quote! Always remember that you don’t have to be what they want you to be. ~ Mohammad Ali

I’m adding it to my favorite quote list, thanks for sharing!

And the concept of being lost in the trees and having to take a step back is so important. I can’t believe how many people get lost/distracted because they always lose sight of the big picture. I’m definitely a big picture person and I love it!

nrhatch - October 31, 2012

Isn’t that quote great? I got it from a bar coaster at Champs.

It is so easy to get lost in the trees.
Taking a giant step back helps to re-orient our perspective.

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