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Odd Jobs April 24, 2012

Posted by nrhatch in Life Balance, Mindfulness, People.
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How much time and energy do we expend in the course of a given day, week, month, year (or lifetime!) devoted to the never-ending task of trying to encapsulate our essence into a nutshell so we can regurgitate “our story” to others?

Who assigned that odious “odd job” to us?

How old would I be if I subtracted from my current age all the time I’ve wasted trying to get them to get me?

We tend to think that we must share “our story” with others . . . so they can understand “where we are coming from.”

Why?  Do we owe them an explanation for our existence?  Of course not.

Trying to explain who we are (or, rather, who we have been at various points in the past) is a bit like chasing individual droplets of water over the dam.  Our “reputation” is a figment of the imagination.

In truth, we have as many reputations as acquaintances and NONE is accurate.

What purpose does sharing “snapshots” of our life serve?

Even if we spent ALL DAY, EVERY DAY trying to explain who we are to others, they still wouldn’t be able to step into our shoes to see the world from OUR perspective.

Not even if they scratched their heads in perplexity for perpetuity.

The impressions others hold of us have  more to do with who they are than with who we are.

So, why do we bother?

It is not their job to understand us . . . that’s our job.

We are the only expert on our life because we are the only one who has walked in our shoes.

They (no matter who “they” are) do not have enough perspective to evaluate OUR actions.

So why do we care what THEY think of us?

What THEY think of us is none of our business.

Of course, the converse is true too:  We cannot effectively evaluate the actions of others using our life experiences and preferences.

Anytime we catch ourselves thinking, “Wow! If I were X, I would NEVER do that!” . . . we need to step firmly back into OUR shoes.

Just be.   And you’ll soon see . . .

The world keeps revolving on its axis even after we stop monitoring its every movement.

Go ahead . . .

Cross that Odd Job off your To Do List today.

Aah . . . that’s better!

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