What Makes You, You? January 15, 2012Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Mindfulness, People.
Rik posted a piece of poetic prose yesterday . . . Imperfect Knowledge.
Reading it, reminded me of all the time I’ve spent in my life trying to understand where others were coming from.
Without making much progress.
Why did I think it was so important to understand what made other people tick?
I’m not sure.
Maybe I wanted to be in a position to predict their future behavior . . . to lessen the uncertainty in my life.
Maybe I wanted to figure out where they “went wrong” so I could help them get back on track and get all their “ducks in a row.”
The Ego is like that. It believes it should not only mind its own business, it should mind everyone else’s business as well.
I realize now that trying to understand others is probably not a good use of the limited time we have here. We can never hope to fully understand another or to have them fully understand us.
We have as many reputations as we have acquaintances . . . and NONE is accurate. Not only is their perspective limited, they are viewing us through the “clouded lens” of their own experiences. As a result, the impressions others hold of us have more to do with who they are than with who we are.
Instead of expending untold energy trying to figure out how to get inside someone else’s head, perhaps we should get to know who we are.
Look deep . . . the answers lie within.
Ahh . . .that’s better!
What say you?