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The Power of Positive People October 14, 2011

Posted by nrhatch in Less IS More, Mindfulness, People.
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If we want to move from where we are to where we want to be, we need to clear out the weeds and underbrush and surround ourselves with people who value our curiosity and wonder and open-minded attitude toward life.

Peace grows within.  You are the garden.  Nurture yourself.

If we want to maximize joy and inner peace, it helps to mingle with people who value and support joy and inner peace . . . rather than detracting from it with their constant negativity.

Well, it wasn’t much of a tail anyway. 

Eeyores are energy drains, dragging us down with constant pessimism.

When Negative Nellies are hanging onto our kite tails (or our coat-tails), we never get the lift we need to soar into the future at maximum velocity.

Hang on!  The future is next.

We benefit the world when we plug into the power of positive people:

Quotes to Ponder:

* Living life without passion is like trying to go hot air ballooning with an empty balloon.

* Those who can, do.  Those who can’t, try to tell us why we can’t do it either.

* If we limit our choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, we disconnect ourselves from what we truly want; all that’s left is compromise. ~ Robert Fritz

Aah . . . that’s better!

Birds of a feather flock together . . . is your flock dragging you down?  If so, maybe it’s time to cut them loose!  Give yourself a chance to soar unfettered.

Related posts:  10 Ways to Attract Positive Energy *  Tigger or Eeyore? * Only If . . . Je Voudrais  Voler *  Self-Fulfilling Prophesies * Silence the Inner Critic * Dream The Impossible Dream * When It’s OK to Walk Away (Huffington Post)

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1. sweetdaysundertheoaks - October 14, 2011

I have always loved Piglet 🙂 Hmmm, wonder what that says about me? I cut someone loose two years ago and have never been happier. Sometimes a hard choice to make, especially when you have been friends for 55 years. Good read this morning Nancy, makes me think this morning.

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

It is hard to let go of people, places, and things ~ we are attached to the idea of attachment. But if we hang on to everything and everyone that comes into our life, we eventually will be buried alive under the clutter and detritus.

Periodically, we must take a good hard look at how we spend our days and ask whether we are making good use of the limited time we have here. If not, change is in order.

“If this person came into my life for the first time today, would I choose to spend time with them?” If not . . . cutting them loose may be the best option ~ freeing up time and energy for other pursuits.

2. SammyDee - October 14, 2011

It isn’t a quote but every now and then when I fail at something I remind myself that – it’s not that I can’t do it, I just haven’t done it yet. Life is so much better when you’re feeling positive.

If you’ve never seen it before check out http://www.actionforhappiness.org/ (“Action for Happiness is a movement for positive social change. We’re bringing together people from all walks of life who want to play a part in creating a happier society for everyone.”)

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

Excellent, SammyDee! I’ll check it out. 😀

3. suzicate - October 14, 2011

Excellent post, Nancy. Weeding is probably one of the hardest but most self-growth producing concepts I’ve undertaken. Getting the Negative Nellies out of my daily life has allowed room for peace. It’s as if this one thing uncluttered me!

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

Until I started to Simplify My Life, I tried to hang on to everything and everyone. They didn’t add value to my life . . . they just added weight. We need to look at the garden and be brave enough to pluck the weeds that no longer nourish us.

That frees them up to find someone who can appreciate their negativity. 😉

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5. Judson - October 14, 2011

A worthy goal for sure. Easier said than done when a beloved family member is one of the sources of negative energy.

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

Whoever said life would be easy? We must make the choice that’s right for us ~ if we cut all the other Eeyores and Negative Nellies out of our life, maybe we will have the time and energy to really HELP a “beloved family member” become more POSITIVE.

6. Tori Nelson - October 14, 2011

The perfect, uplifting post to end the week on 🙂

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

Thanks, Tori!

BTW: I’ve tried to access your blog a few times, but it causes my computer to freeze up. Have others had a similar problem with your home page? It says it’s trying to load 392 images (or something like that). Then it gets tired and stops trying.

jannatwrites - October 16, 2011

Mine locks up on Tori’s site sometimes, too. It takes a long time for the page to load even on a good a day (I don’t know if the background music has anything to do with it or not.)

nrhatch - October 16, 2011

Thanks, Janna. I’m wondering if the problem is just with her home page or with all posts.

If anyone can post a link to one of her specific posts here, that would be great. 😀

jannatwrites - October 16, 2011
nrhatch - October 16, 2011

Thanks, Janna. I maneuvered past the bouncer at the back door with no problem using the “secret password.”

Once I got in, I susbscribed to avoid her home page in the future.

7. Carl D'Agostino - October 14, 2011

Yes, if you lie with dogs you get fleas so choose well with whom you associate.

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

I’ve been doing some fairly extensive weeding this week ~ after feeling far too fragmented by daily dramas. Cutting some of the kite strings has definitely helped me get my feet off the ground.

Let’s go fly a kite!

8. adeeyoyo - October 14, 2011

You won’t believe it, Nancy, but I am discovering more and more like-minded people around me every day. Positive people, spiritual people, wonderful outlooks on life!

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

When we focus on what (and who) we WANT in our lives . . . we start noticing it everywhere.

And the less than stellar bits start to drift away.

9. TheIdiotSpeaketh - October 14, 2011

Borrowing from a famous Monty Python song….. “Always look on the bright side of Life”…. It’s what I try to do. 🙂

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

Same here. I am not inclined to walk around carting a wheelbarrow of woe . . . or throwing pity parties for myself.

And I tend to steer clear of people with a negative mindset. It’s exhausting to be around them. 😎

10. Pocket Perspectives - October 14, 2011

Wonderful post, Nancy…so helpful. It’s that “plant flowers, pull weeds” commitment that Rick Hansen writes and speaks so much about. I have tended to focus on that “plant flowers, pull weeds” idea within myself, but I can see I’d do well to keep that in mind with choosing more carefully who I spend time with, too…I’m really influenced by the outlook of others, so I do try to be careful. And the video is packed with good insights too…thanks!

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

When we’re around people who fuel our enthusiasm . . . we soar “up through the atmosphere, up where the air is clear.”

When we are surrounded by “energy drains” . . . we remain tethered to terra firma. Like rocks. 😉

I’d rather fly high than sit around like a lump of Play Doh.

11. Jerry Keusch - October 14, 2011

That’s quite a following you have. Great to feel your positivity!

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

When we master our thoughts . . . we master our life. We free up energy to mindfully move in the direction of our dreams, as the path unfolds before us.

We know that THIS MOMENT is the one that matters. By focusing on the here and now, we make better choices. We let go of self-defeating thoughts and behaviors. We stop creating unnecessary suffering.

Aah . . . that’s better!

12. Sandra Bell Kirchman - October 14, 2011

Great post and I particularly enjoyed the video of Les Brown. A mentor of mine, Dr. Francisco Coll, used to say, “You are what you think, not what you think you are.” When I think negatively, I become negative in my actions as well. When I think positively, good things happen to me and in my life. If you don’t believe it, try both and see which one actually produces results.

What helps me maintain positivity is that “attitude of gratitude” that Nancy mentioned in another post. I find that easy to hold onto and it helps me enormously. And…when I am feeling that attitude of gratitude, it seems to keep negative people away, sort of like OFF 🙂

The more I think it and practice it, the more that attitude of gratitude becomes an inner part of me.

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

I absolutely believe it because that’s been my experience as well. We are shaped by the thoughts we think.

If I’m feeling “sluggish” and tune in to my thoughts, I find negative loops playing. If I feel enthusiastic about life and listen in on my thoughts, I find positive loops playing.

When we sense negativity creeping in, we must mindfully pick up the remote and change the channel. Aah . . . that’s better!

Thanks, Sandra. 😉

Sandra Bell Kirchman - October 14, 2011

Heh heh, it’s Sandra, not Sharon.

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

Fixed.

I don’t know why I keep doing that to you, Sandra. Especially when your name is right there for me to see. 🙄

13. sufilight - October 14, 2011

I love to connect to positive people online,(you are one of them),:) and offline. My s/o and I enjoy connecting to positive people. Life is too short to waste on focusing on the negatives.

nrhatch - October 14, 2011

I concur . . . and right back at you, Marie!

I am trying to focus on adding people to my life who value inner peace and joy, while cutting loose people who ask me to stop every few feet to deal with another self-created daily drama.

Maybe some people “need to be needed” like that . . . I don’t.

14. ElizOF - October 15, 2011

Therein lies the secret… I write a positive blog because it makes me happy… and it attracts more of same to me… The law of attraction. 🙂

nrhatch - October 15, 2011

When we are happy and content . . . we notice more things to be happy and content about. If we walk around in a perpetual state of discontent, life is gray indeed.

Here’s to creating, spreading, and sharing positives with the world! 😎

15. Tilly Bud - October 15, 2011

I agree up to a point, but maybe we are the positive people that negative people need to be around to help lift them.

nrhatch - October 15, 2011

I don’t think it’s possible for a positive person to lift a negative person . . . mastering our thoughts is an inside job.

I’m happy to share tips and techniques with anyone, but they must apply them on their own.

Most negative people don’t want to do that. Instead, they listen to the tips and say, “it’s too hard.” If I share ideas which they refuse to apply, I walk away. They aren’t looking to lift themselves UP . . . they just want to drag others DOWN.

16. jannatwrites - October 16, 2011

I’ve been around negative people – and it doesn’t take me long before I realize I’m becoming like them. Since I’m generally a positive person, I have learned to limit my exposure to such people. I love the rain, but I don’t wan’t to live under a cloud.

I’ve been offline for a few days, and I’ve missed some great posts of yours…so glad to finally catch up 🙂

nrhatch - October 16, 2011

Thanks, Janna. I expect I’ve been writing “too much” for most readers to follow lately.

I’m going to make an effort to scale back ~ for my sake and yours. 😀

17. viviankirkfield - October 19, 2011

My sister used to call me “Pollyanna” when we were young (in a negative way) because she felt I was “too” positive. Of course, she is very negative. 😦
I’m still that way. It’s hard for positive people to understand why negative people seem to prefer being negative. Maybe it the experiences they had in childhood, maybe it’s a brain chemistry thing, maybe we are born with a tendency to be positive or negative…like the two sides of a magnet.
We can’t “change” someone who is negative and make them view life in a positive way…you are right, Nancy. That has to come from within.
Thanks for a great post…the video clip was powerful!

nrhatch - October 19, 2011

Thanks, Vivian. I’ve been called a Pollyanna too. Yay! 😀

I expect that many negative people feel that we are “deluding” ourselves by looking at the glass as half full. They don’t realize that they are cheating themselves by looking at it as half empty.

18. reocochran - October 18, 2014

I made a difficult choice at age 50 (almost 9 years ago) after reading a book with positivity suggestions that motivated me to give up all the Debbie Downer’s in my life. I really appreciated this post, I like how you started it. Great first line! I had to ‘let go’ of a friend from 7th grade through her moving to the exact same town I live in now. She was always using me as a support person and listener. What happened was, I had my own crisis! I was losing my husband, a beautiful home, and my career(No Child Left Behind Act had me working on my Master’s at the time, which I found the last 3 courses impossible to pay for and were offered at night…) Anyway, Diane could not listen, would not be sympathetic. Each time I ‘needed’ an ear to listen, her life was so much worse… I just quit calling, walked away from her, if I saw her in town I would turn around and walk the other way. She doesn’t know why, I just didin’t feel she would ‘learn’ to be an empathetic listener, ever! My Mom cracked me up, she said, “Finally!” (She mentioned from middle school on, I had been Diane’s cheerleader… knew exactly situations where I had been her sounding board.) I feel blessed.
Unfortunately, a wonderful woman who was in my Master’s degree classes finished her coursework, kept her job but very sadly, died of cancer. Nothing makes my story, ‘sad’ or hopeless, since I am so glad to be alive. Turns out, Nancy, my ex-husband was like Eeyore, I felt a big lift in my spirits by letting go!

nrhatch - October 18, 2014

It can be hard to turn our backs on the Debbie Downers, Negative Nellies, and Eeyores in our lives. Sometimes, we can limit contact. Other times, only a clean break will do. Sounds like Dumping Diane was the right thing to do ~ especially judging from your mom’s reaction.

Glad you’re still glad to be alive!


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