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Unusual Angles June 24, 2011

Posted by nrhatch in Life Balance, Mindfulness, Spirit & Ego.
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Donald-DuckaSLTW often offers an unusual angle or slant on issues like bullying,  marriage, infidelity, suicide, and religion.

When we think for ourselves about matters of import, rather than accepting the “standard wisdom” on a subject, people may look at us a bit askance.

If we shrug off their censure, it throws them for a loop . . .  because they view the goal of life as conformity.

They want to fit in with the pack.

Not me . . . I’m no longer interested in playing Follow The LeaderSimon SaysMother May I? or Monkey See, Monkey Do.

I feel far more balanced now than when I viewed life through the skewed and clouded lens of the fearful and fragile Ego.

I’m no longer thrown “off kilter” by looking over my shoulder to emulate others or conform to their expectations.

My life is my own . . . with all its unusual angles.

Quotes to Ponder:

* He who trims himself to suit everyone else will soon whittle himself away. ~Raymond Hull

* The Spiritual path requires renunciation, a letting go of attachment to self-centered Ego concerns, such as the desire for approval.

* Nature does not ask, “what do they want me to be?”  Its glory lies in its authenticity.

No rules.  Just write!

What about you?

Do you worry about what “they” think of you?  Or do you embrace the unusual angles and unique slant of your life?

Related posts:  Sidey’s Weekend Theme ~ Unusual AnglesAngle Kingdoms in England (Adee) * Unusual Angles ~ Butterfly (Reflections) *Unusual Angles  (Woman Wielding Words) * Unusual Angles ~ Video (Adee’s Blog) * Unusual Angles (Sidey) * He’s Got A Nose For It (Laughing Housewife)

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1. viewfromtheside - June 24, 2011

it’s so much more fun to be myse;f

nrhatch - June 24, 2011

I concur. I always get a chuckle out of those who try to “bully” us into conformity . . . nipping and yipping at our heels like Border Collies . . . trying to get us to join the rest of the sheep. 😀

2. Debra - June 24, 2011

I do not think I could be anyone but me. 🙂

And me is someone/something/some( ?) that/who is not static. Never boring. hehehe

Fitting in has never been my life plan. Being happy on the other hand , has been my life’s plan.:)

nrhatch - June 24, 2011

Same here, Debra. In my teens, I probably did try to conform to “fit in.” Now, I can’t be bothered.

Who I am is who I want to be . . . I’m not interested in emulating those who still use the Ego as a yardstick.

3. Lisa (Woman Wielding Words) - June 24, 2011

I’m slowly embracing the angles. I love that second image. It is full of peace and strength.

nrhatch - June 24, 2011

Isn’t it?

I didn’t have that image in mind when I wrote the post . . . but, as soon as I saw it, I knew it reflected the words with grace.

Feel free to join Sidey’s challenge if it appeals to you . . . anything on the theme of Unusual Angles is welcome.

Lisa (Woman Wielding Words) - June 24, 2011

I think I might do that. I haven’t posted today, and I probably won’t, but now I have something to ponder for a possible post tomorrow (or later).

nrhatch - June 24, 2011

The link to her post is the first one: Sidey’s Weekend Theme.

She gives us wonderful themes to work with each week . . . and the variety of responses makes it tons of FUN.

4. Maggie - June 24, 2011

I enjoy being different from others. Who would want to live in a world where everyone conformed to some invisible expectations?

nrhatch - June 24, 2011

Vive la difference! 😀

5. barb19 - June 24, 2011

I felt I had to conform in my teenage years, wanting to ‘fit in the same mold as everyone else, but it made me miserable and I lost ‘me’. I was a stranger to myself.
It was only years later when I had my first child that I started to be me, and discovered it was ok to be different – I found myself and loved it.
Who are we if we can’t be ourselves?

nrhatch - June 24, 2011

Shortly before my 40th birthday,I woke up to the realization that I did not need a permission slip to live MY life.

Quite an eye opener, that. 😯

6. SuziCate - June 24, 2011

I used to spend my life worrying about what everyone thought of me…now I don’t really care so much. If I can look myself in the mirror and sleep at night, then I think i’ve made choices for the good of not only myself but others. I am content.

nrhatch - June 24, 2011

That’s key, Suzi!

When WE know that we did our best . . . that’s enough. 😀

7. Rosa - June 24, 2011

I think that age is a great assistant in becoming more comfortable in my own skin. As time goes by, I find myself more and more able to trust in my thoughts and expectations that I have for myself. I wonder if that’s the case with most people?

nrhatch - June 24, 2011

I expect that we do grow more comfortable in our own skin over time . . . but I’ve known lots of “seniors” who are self-conscious about their approval rating with others.

So, like much in life, it all depends. 😉

8. adeeyoyo - June 25, 2011

What a brilliant illustration for the convoluted thinking that abounds!

nrhatch - June 25, 2011

I’ve had people say to me, in essence, “If you would stop doing X (or being so Y), then we could be friends.”

What a hoot! They’ll be friends with me as long as I am willing to let them call the shots.

Umm . . . No thanks. 😎

adeeyoyo - June 25, 2011

I don’t like being ‘controlled’ either. 😦

nrhatch - June 25, 2011

Maybe they think they’re special enough to warrant our changing to suit them. Silly rabbits.

9. Tilly Bud - June 25, 2011

Since a friend told me I was a little eccentric when I considered myself conservative and reserved, I stopped worrying about what other people thought of me. It’s liberating.

nrhatch - June 25, 2011

When we are slave to the opinions of others . . . we are prisoners. But we hold the key and can liberate ourselves whenever we choose.

Repeat after me:
“What you think of me is none of my business.” 😉

Aah . . . . FREEDOM!

10. Unusual Angles, A View from the Outside « Woman Wielding Words - June 25, 2011

[…] from Spirit Lights the Way suggested that I try to write a response to  View From the Side's, Weekend Theme . This is my […]

11. Julie - June 25, 2011

Boy if this post isn’t the truth! I have recently begun to accept that my life is not on the trajectory of “normal” or “accepted.” I used to worry about what people would think or say (even when they would not be given the opportunity to say anything). No more. If there is one single universal truth it is that there is no one single path for all people, even though some paths may be more heavily trodden than others.

nrhatch - June 25, 2011

Well put, Julie!

Those who congregate “with the flock” get annoyed by those who don’t ~ especially when their judgment and condemnation doesn’t bother us.

“They” lose their power over us when we stop caring about what “they” think ~ and “they” don’t like that. 😀

12. Patricia - June 25, 2011

When I was young what other folks thought was very important to me. Now that I am old(er) I still care what pelple think but it doesn’t cause me to change who I am.

I like me and that’s good enough for me, if not for them ,well, pffrrrth!

nrhatch - June 25, 2011

I like you too! And if they don’t like that, pffrrrth! 😛

Patricia - June 25, 2011

Thanks, Nanc, I like you,too. For two people who are so different we are very much alike, I think.

nrhatch - June 25, 2011

I think you’re right about that, Patricia.

Perhaps we’re looking at the world through different lenses, from different vantage points, while seeing the same view?

13. Linda - June 25, 2011

I love that first quote by Raymond Hull. It reminds how women in the south used to be raised. An awful lot of them got lost.

nrhatch - June 25, 2011

When we are encouraged to believe that what others think of us is more important than what we think of ourselves, we are apt to get lost in the shuffle.

Here’s to finding our way home! 😉

14. therealsharon - June 26, 2011

I still care too much what others think of me unfortunately and I have been told that it gets easier as you get older. I sure hope it does. I guess it’s a good thing that at least I don’t WANT to care what others think of me as much as I still do, right?
I do like being ME and I definitely don’t consider myself as fitting into any one box. I’ve learned to look at lots of different sources and take from each one what feels right to me.

nrhatch - June 26, 2011

The turning point for me was the day I realized that I had as many reputations as acquaintances . . . and NONE was accurate.

Everyone we meet forms an impression about who we are . . . based on who THEY are.

We could spend our entire life trying to correct their opinions of us . . . and we would NEVER finish the work.

Or we can just say, “What you think of me is none of my business” and focus on being the best that we can be . . . using our own yardstick.

15. eof737 - June 27, 2011

Amen to that… as a late bloomer, I can relate. No more Ms. nice girl.
I’ve been AWOL lately… just from exhaustion and the hectic pace of life. 🙂

nrhatch - June 27, 2011

Here’s to recharging your batteries. When we are tired, it often is a reminder to slow down the pace . . . at least enough to smell the roses. 😀

16. oldancestor - June 27, 2011

People often act as if one is obligated to believe what they believe and, if not, to come up with a damn good justification for not doing so.

When I oblige their demand for justification, my answer usually gets them more riled and indignant.

Why did you ask then?

nrhatch - June 27, 2011

You’re unusual, OA . . . I love that about ya! 😀

And you are SO RIGHT! Certain people are used to spouting off whatever the hell they want to say. They count on everyone else being “too polite” to call them on their BS.

I’m glad I’m not alone in saying, “Sorry. I disagree.”


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