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Stop Watching Stale Re-Runs March 14, 2011

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Mindfulness.
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How do we heal wounds?

If we forget about them, and leave them alone, they heal on their own. In contrast, if we keep picking at the scabs, to see how fast we’re “healing,” we merely impede the body’s natural healing capabilities.

In this society, we are definitely encouraged to analyze the past ~ to “think it through.”  I suspect, however, we would be heal faster if we just let sadness from the past drift away . . . out of sight and out of mind.

When we hang on to negative emotions (hurt, frustration, anger, sadness, or grief), we are getting in the way of the natural healing process. 

Instead of letting time work its magic, we aggravate the impact of the initial injury by letting it eclipse everything else in our lives. 

We get stuck for days, weeks, months, and even years, watching the same stale re-runs over and over. 

Whenever we choose to hang on to the past, rather than letting it go, we are robbing ourselves of  the joy, peace, and happiness we could be feeling right here, right now.

In The Serenity Principle, the author addresses how our thoughts give rise to our emotions . . . not the other way around.  In its essence:

We think a sad thought (“I’m all alone”). . . we get sad (“Being alone is sad”). . . which makes us think about other sad thoughts (“It’s so unfair. This shouldn’t have happened. I’m scared.”) . . . which makes us sadder (“Why do I have to deal with this? Why did he/she/it have to leave?”) . . .

If we see the sad thought for what it is ~ just a puff of energy ~ we can examine it BEFORE it spirals out of control, and replace it with a thought that is more conducive to our happiness and peace of mind:

“I’m all alone.” -> “But I won’t always be alone. I have friends and family that love me. I’m young, vibrant, and in good health. This is a sad time, but I’ll get through it.”

The more we question our thoughts and look to see whether the statements are really “true,” the faster we heal. 

Try asking: Will this thought bring me peace of mind? 

If the answer is “no,”  think about something else for awhile, and allow the pain, fear, guilt, and sadness to recede of its own accord.

Pain will wash away in time . . . as long as we don’t go chasing after it.

Quote:  Do not believe everything you think.

No rules.  Just write!

How about you?  Do you find it easy to let go of emotions once they’ve served their purpose? 

Or do you find that sadness, anger, guilt, and fear linger longer than necessary?

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