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7 Ways to Increase Blog Traffic March 7, 2011

Posted by nrhatch in Blogging, Humor, Writing & Writers.

Each blog starts out as a tiny minnow in an enormous  pond ~ the cyber sea.

As we develop readers (and friends), the traffic on our blog expands.  Minnows become fish and a few select fish become whales.

What determines which minnows become massive blogging whales?


That’s right.  It has nothing to do with the quality or subject matter of the posts they write . . . they just happened to be in the right place at the right time.

Lucky Ducks!

If you believe that LUCK is the sole determining factor in life, don’t bother reading the rest of this post . . . it’s not meant for you.  

Still reading?  Good.

Blog traffic works on the same principle as customer traffic to businesses.

Think about your favorite stores and restaurants.  Why do you frequent them?

Sometimes it’s because you know the owner and feel loyalty to them.

More often, it’s because they are selling something you want at a price you’re willing to pay.

In remote locations, the right product at the right price might be enough, standing alone, to earn your continued business.

But what if similar stores are selling similar products for similar prices in the immediate vicinity?  Which store or restaurant would you choose?

The one that offers the best customer service, right?

Until you are lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time, the best way to increase blog traffic is to offer better customer service than the blog next door:

1.  Offer an enticing menu selection.  Don’t write day after day about how many hairballs your cat coughed up or what you ate for breakfast.  Mix it up a bit.  Offer real value.  Write entertaining or educational posts that make your readers look forward to swinging by for a visit.  Add humor where appropriate.  Use graphics that accentuate your posts.  Offer incentives to frequent visitors.

2.  Clean up on Aisle 13.  Remember to proofread your posts.  Edit out the extraneous and clarify the unclear.  An occasional typo is not the end of the world, but a string of typos screams that you don’t care enough about your readers to polish up your words.  Who wants to spend time in a store that is messy and disheveled when there’s a cleaner store just down the street?  Who wants to eat in a restaurant that serves enticing food on dirty plates?

3.  Create compelling titles.  If you promote your work on Facebook or Twitter, let friends, fans, and followers know you’ve posted something of interest by being specific.  A sign that says “Huge Sale ~ Bargain Prices” is less likely to draw in customers than one that lets potential shoppers know what’s for sale.  Make your “daily special” sound enticing and hungry diners will swing by for a bite to eat.

4.  Reciprocate.  Do you tire of reading, commenting, and supporting  bloggers who don’t return the  favor?  I do.  If I leave regular comments on someone’s blog and they rarely  (if ever) reciprocate, reading their blog becomes less of a priority for me.  Time permitting, I’ll still visit.  But my visits will be less frequent.

5.  Don’t take your regular readers for granted.  If your #1 fan stopped visiting, would you notice?  Would you care?  If so, let them know that their visits and comments are as important to you as the new faces  wandering into your lobby.

6.  Don’t give visitors the silent treatment.  When people take the time to post comments on your blog, read and respond to those comments.  If you don’t, they are apt to stop commenting.  Except for the occasional deranged individual, most of us prefer NOT to talk to ourselves.

7.  Make visitors feel welcome.   Have you ever eaten in a restaurant with excellent food, fine wine, gorgeous decor . . . and surly waiters?  I have.  I rarely return.  The same holds true for blogs.  No matter how enticing the articles, if readers are treated more like intrusions than welcome guests,  they are apt to leave (without offering the customary 18% gratuity).

Whether you’re a minnow, a fish, or a whale, when you’re enjoying what you do, it shows, and your positive energy will attract more visitors to your  “corner” of the cyber sea.

So don’t wait until you’ve reached some arbitrary  number of visitors, comments, or subscribers to start enjoying the journey.  Enjoy it NOW.

No rules.  Just write!

How about you?  Are you enjoying the journey from minnow to fish to {{gulp}} shark to whale?  Do you have any tips to share on increasing blog traffic or improving customer service?

Related posts:  What Blogs Do You Read & Why? * 7 Reasons to Press “Unsubscribe” * From Cyber Friends to Fast Friends * Blogging: A Waggish Waste of Time?Down The Blog Hole * I Can Name That Theme in 3 Notes * How To Entice New Visitors To Your Blog (The Laughing Housewife) * How to Write Better Titles for Blog Posts (WP Daily Post) * Great Blogging Tips (WP Daily Post)


1. CMSmith - March 7, 2011

Thank you for the tips and encouragement.

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Thanks, CM. Here’s to brighter days ahead, with fewer “whys” and more peace.

2. phrogmom - March 7, 2011

great ideas!!

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Thanks, phrogmom!

3. theonlycin - March 7, 2011

I’m without my email at the moment (long story) and I am going out of my mind not being updated on who of my friends have posted (and worrying that they will think I’ve stopped visiting them).

Very good post, Nancy.

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

That’s why I subscribe to blogs ~ for those delicious e-mails that tantalize and tease me to swing by and check out recent words of wisdom from my favorite bloggers.

On WordPress, until your e-mail starts behaving better, you can click “My Account” (top left) and “Read my Subscriptions” to see who’s posted recently.

Here’s to making that retrograde renogade behave.

But . . . don’t worry. If we feel you’ve forgotten us, we’ll speak up. 😛

4. SuziCate - March 7, 2011

Interesting. The best unexpected bonus I have found from blogging is friendship. However, there are a few bogs I read that the owners do not respond. I still read because I like the material. And then there are blogs I read that aren’t that great but I adore the person behind the blog. I am sorry that I haven’t been around as often to the many I usually read. I haven’t made my exact difficulties known, but I do have a terminal illness in my family-I’m having a difficult time wrapping my head around it…Eventually, I’ll make a full return.

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Suzi ~ I’m sorry to hear that. Life is hard sometimes and the “Why” of it all escapes us. I read a post this morning, “Why?,” that deals with similar issues surround Alzheimer’s:


But, here, I’m not talking about someone missing a post or two. I’m talking about bloggers who wonder why they don’t have more visitors to their blogs when they rarely bother to comment on other blogs. We get what we give.

I’m talking about bloggers who are posting regularly, sometimes multiple posts each day, with virtually no reciprocation or acknowledgment offered to the visitors they do have. Not only do they not comment on other blogs, they are often the ones who give visitors the silent treatment.

Unless their posts are superb, I’d rather visit other blogs where there is REAL interaction.

And that’s one reason I love your blog . . . I’ve yet to see you give visitors the silent treatment. Just the opposite. Your blog is warm and welcoming.


suzicate - March 7, 2011

thank you. I just went over and read the post, very eloquently written. We all struggle with why in one form or another in our lives.

Paula Tohline Calhoun - March 7, 2011

SuziCate: I know that you will hear and read a lot of comments that say “I know what you are going through.” we really don’t. I’m prone to say it myself, but what it’s meant to say is that we have all been through our own trials by fire, and we empathiaae as well a sympathize. Everyone’s experience is unique, as yours is most certainly. Just know that your blogging buddies are waiting here on the sidelines, sending our prayers, good wishes and whatever support we can offer to you and your extended family.

There are times when responses or comments are not required. If someone inquires after your absence, it’s only because you are missed! A “blanket post” explaining the difficulties, if one can manage it, lets your readers know what’s going on, and makes it known that you are out of blogging commission for a while. It also allows your concerned readers a place to offer their thoughts and feelings, and to add a smile or two to your day! I wish you well, SuziCate. Keep on keeping on. I wish you

Peace enough,

suzicate - March 7, 2011

I appreciate your wonderful words. I haven’t felt I could tackle that post yet (I have just stated that I’m having a difficult time) although I did write a poem on my other blog touching on it. I just don’t like to put too much personal info about other people out there as I try to respect their privacy. I’m sure I will eventually write something when I get to the point that the only thing I can do to get me through is write. Currently, I write some of it, but I do not post it.

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Suzi ~ That’s wise. Never share more than you feel comfortable with. Writing need not be posted to benefit us. We process life on the inside. Peace.

Paula Tohline Calhoun - March 7, 2011

I was thinking more along the lines of a quickie, saying something to the effect of: “Personal circumstances prevent me from posting and responding for a while. Please bear with me – I will be back.”

I also don’t think you ever need to share beyond what you are comfortable with. I basically wanted to suggest a way to “stay in touch” without actually writing or posting for however long you need!

All the best!

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

@PTC ~ That’s always a wonderful idea if we are going to be away for any length of time.

I know, for example, that many people are wondering about Andi’s absence. She’s gone missing and no one has heard from her in a month.

Paula Tohline Calhoun - March 7, 2011

Yes! I am really worried about Andi. I recently made a humorously “terse” comment on her blog. I’m pretty sure I have her e-mail – I’m going to send her one and get her to respond somehow, I hope!

5. Debra - March 7, 2011

@SuziCate ~ My thoughts and good wishes for you and your family/friends are with you. I have been in a similar situation …and, if I may, am sending you you hugs to help you get through this. You may not get your head fully wrapped around it…and that is okay too. Remember to breathe and even take a moment to breathe a little deeper. Go outside and touch a bit of nature. _/!\_

@Nancy….when I first read the words ‘lucky’, I thought ‘oh my!there goes my chance!’ hehe. 🙂

As my favorite commenter (yay!) on my blog..go Nancy! Yet I have found many people visit, read and not leave a comment…that is ok too…:) I wonder if it is like the ‘comment’ box at your favorite store/restaurant? Many may not comment but you know they are ‘commenting’somewhere and in someway!

I am still in the learning process of what ticks and what clicks …but it is ok I am enjoying the process.

Thanks Nancy some food for thought..and this food stay with a person 🙂

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Thanks for your warm support to Suzi and for your positively uplifting blog, Debra. It’s ALWAYS a treat to read. 😀

Lots of visitors don’t comment. That’s not an issue at all. Many aren’t writers, they are readers.

But when writers/fellow bloggers accept comments without reciprocating . . . they are apt to see a drop in visitors and commenters on their own blog.

We get what we give. Namaste.

Debra - March 7, 2011

Yes we do get what we give. 🙂

and thank you about TBLC being uplifting…it is on purpose..Yay!

Namaste to all:)

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

I’m with you.

When I started blogging last February I had one “goal” . . . to enjoy the journey. So far, it’s been a blast.

suzicate - March 7, 2011

Debra, Thank you for your kind words and virtual hugs. The support here means everything, especially since I don’t know you. (I’ll be heading over to your blog.) And yes, nature is my release…hiking was my first step in trying to process this diagnosis.

Debra - March 8, 2011

_/!\_ Thank you. 🙂

6. Tilly Bud - March 7, 2011

This is a great advice.

I get your point about comments, but what if you have nothing of interest to say? I use the ‘Like’ button a lot, to show that I’ve stopped by; but if the blogger is on the other side of the world and ten people have already said what you thought of saying, isn’t that a bit tedious for the blogger?

I’d really like your opinion on this one. The good thing is, I know you’ll answer me! You are one of the most conscientious bloggers I know.

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

If I enjoyed the post, and have nothing to add to the discussion that hasn’t already been said, I do one of two things:

(1) I just say, “Thanks, Tilly Bud.” {Which makes perfect sense when I’m visiting The Laughing Housewife, but other bloggers often wonder, “Who is this “Tilly Bud?”} 😛

(2) I don’t comment on that particular post. Then I set my alarm and race around to be sure to be the VERY FIRST comment on that blogger’s next post so that I have my pick of all the possible comments in the world . . . without feeling that I’m wearing someone else’s galoshes.

I have never found the comments I received on SLTW to be tedious. If someone says, “Thanks for the post.” I give them a thanks or a thumbs up or a 😎 in response.

There are occasional posts that really don’t require comments (and where comments might become tedious to the blogger), in those cases, clicking the like button is a perfect way to say, “Hey. I was here.”

Last . . . if I got 17 comments in a row that said the SAME EXACT THING (which has never happened, but could), I would respond to them ALL in one fell swoop with:


7. You Were Born That Way - March 7, 2011

As someone else commented, thanks for the encouragement as well as the good ideas. I’m still learning the ins and outs of blogging, like pingbacks and guest blogging. Haven’t gotten the that yet. Enjoying the ride, though.

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Thanks. Good points.

Pingbacks are an excellent way to promote bloggers who are writing on similar subjects. Adding a link to one of their posts in one of your posts ties the two posts together and allows readers to find related discussions.

Likewise, inviting bloggers to guest post on your blog exposes them to new readers and allows your readers to meet someone new that may be worth following.

Offering to guest post for other bloggers gives them a break from blogging for a day, exposes you to new readers, etc.

But the guest posts should be a good fit with the subject matter of the host blog. For example, I would never agree to post a guest blog on the benefits of Factory Farming since I don’t agree with the practice of Factory Farming.

For a recent blog about this potential pitfall of guest blogging:


Loved your post this morning ~ cats rock . . . and rule!

8. Paula Tohline Calhoun - March 7, 2011

Dear Nancy – my very first blogging mentor and friend:

I know you did not intend #’s 5 and 6 for me, but I really took them to heart, because they are absolutlely true, and worth teaching to new bloggers, especially! Being an “old veteran” of a whole year, I still appreciate the peptalks – especially now, when things seem to be “taking off,” and my original intentions are being realized. It is so important to stick to the basic principles of good blogging. You get what you give, and if you give with “heart,” you get back in “spades!” It’s not necessary to “club” people over the head with overly verbose comments (like this one), but you never know when when comments fitly spoken will yield “diamonds.” Did I just write that? Good grief! I’m not just on the brink – I think I crossed over!

I do want to make sure that you and all my dear blogging friends know that I have not abandoned you all – that I still read, learn and laugh or tear up with you all. Your friendships have meant and continue to mean so much. As a matter of fact, your constant support and uplifting humor through all my surgeries and health problems have been a huge factor in my healing to date, and I know that future procedures and challenges will be met with the same grace you have all given and that has seen me through thus far.

All your advice in this post is spot on. In addition to following through on all the points made, I think it is also important to ask advice from those bloggers you trust and whose blogs you enjoy. Specific questions are the most helpful, and often yield the best answers. I think that most new bloggers will find a whole host of people who are very willing to share the knowledge they have accumulated through their own experiences.

Another point, and one you have made before, is to stop and consider exactly why you are blogging in the first place. If you only want to get more readers, that’s fairly easily accomplished, but I believe that most want the quality of readership that yields the best relationships and that help you grow as a writer. Those relationships take time, but they are certainly worth the effort.

I was very fortunate to have found some quality readers/mentors who were willing to show me the ropes from the very beginning, and led me in directions where I could find the sort of support that I needed for me to find what I was looking for by writing my blog. Don’t fail to ask, give their advice a try, and also be prepared to try and pave your own way. We are all unique, so our blogs will be unique – thank God! Who wants to read the same thing over and over?

The best advice I ever got was from you, Nancy: Don’t allow yourself to drown in all that you think you want to accomplish. Set your priorities, get them straight, and just do it at the pace you can handle. This is supposed to be fun, as well as a way to expand your horizons.

Now – I hope this comment is a beginning of me getting back to doing more of it, now that some of the necessary junk has been gotten out of the way. I’m having fun again!

One more thing: It’s a good thing to find a blogging mentor/friend with whom you don’t always agree, but whom you respect and enjoy!. Agreeing to disagree yields the most interesting conversations!

Peace enough, Nancy

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Wow! Now that’s what I call a WHALE of a comment. 🙂

And its “belly” is filled with wonderful insights and, yes, even diamonds.

Or pearls.

What a thought. What if whales, rather than oysters, grew pearls? And coughed them up like hairballs for us to sell on the open market? Man. We’d be rich. If we owned the whale, of course.

Exactly right about (1) knowing why you blog (or why you do anything really) and (2) setting priorities based on your own life preferences.

Don’t blog because “everyone else is doing it so why shouldn’t we?” {Thanks, Cranberries!}

Blog because the journey ADDS to the quality of your life by enabling you to offer something of value to your readers.

Then it’s a win-win for everyone involved.

When we are absolutely determined to ENJOY what we do, we win. No matter what happens, we win.

Thanks, PTC!

Paula Tohline Calhoun - March 7, 2011

Of course you realize that if whales coughed up giant pearls – they would lose any value they have on the open market. They would still be beautiful, but can you imagine trying to wear a string of them around your neck? 😀

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Or dangling from our earlobes? 😯

Maybe we could use them as gazing balls in the garden? Or as coffee table bases?

9. GretchensPianos - March 7, 2011

Hi Nancy,

Great post with good reminders and clarity.

I agree that commenting is important. And waiting for a specific number of subscribers? Not a good idea, because the “magic number” keeps changing!

Readers appreciate your comments in return!

You have inspired me to publish something I had scheduled for tomorrow!


nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Thanks, Gretchen.

So true . . . that magic number keeps growing. What once would have THRILLED us, now seems like “less than enough.”

Our insatiable egos are never satisfied even when Spirit knows that our plates are overflowing with abundance.

And, yay! Look forward to reading your post. 😀

10. kateshrewsday - March 7, 2011

Wonderful advice from such an established and experienced blogger 🙂
Thanks, Nancy.

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Thanks, Kate.

Loved your post this morning . . . still smiling at the image of a camel toting a coke salesman around the corner of the Great Pyramids. 😎

11. Carol Ann Hoel - March 7, 2011

Your post on 7 ways to increase blog traffic makes perfect sense. Yes, I am enjoying the journey. I would find it easier to get busy on other things if I didn’t enjoy blogging as much as I do. I think it’s important to be friendly and treat people with respect.

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

I agree. Many of us blog because we enjoy the relationships we form. If the relationship becomes one-sided, or lop-sided, it’s not as much fun.

Since I do not have enough hours in the day to follow all the blogs that appeal to me, I pick the ones that appeal the most. Often the choice comes down to whether the relationships seems “balanced” and grounded on mutual respect.

Thanks, Carol Ann.

12. viviankirkfield - March 7, 2011

It’s always been a battle for me…to read or to write! And now that I am blogging, this dilemma is only more “dilemmaish”. 🙂
I enjoy writing my parenting blog…sharing info and stories and stuff. But I also LOVE reading other people’s posts (like yours!) and commenting. Sometimes, I write a comment that is longer than many people’s daily posts. 😦
Nancy, thank you so very much for this really informative post on blogging…you brought up some great points. I’ve only been social networking since August and still have a lot to learn.

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Thanks, Vivian. Most is common sense, especially if we stand back and consider the issue.

To maximize my efficiency, I generally do things in “blocks of time” . . .

1. Read comments on SLTW and respond to them.
2. Glance at e-mails to see if anything is “pressing” or “urgent.”
3. Write and post something on SLTW.
4. Read through e-mails.
5. Read new posts on other blogs.
6. Repeat.

By the way, you should check out Kristen Lamb’s blog for marketing and social networking ideas:


13. Cities of the Mind - March 7, 2011

8. Write posts about how to increase blog traffic! =)

Seriously though, good post, and it’s clearly working for you!

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Bwahahaha! Yup, #3 . . . create compelling titles.

Many of my readers aren’t bloggers, so I don’t write about blogging more than 1-2 times a month. In fact, they probably took one look at that title on their subscription feed this morning, yawned, and pressed “delete.” 😛

14. Rosa - March 7, 2011

Great tips, Nancy! And you are great at following your number 1! I never know what juicy tidbit I will find on your blog!

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Thanks, Rosa! 😎

SLTW has an underlying theme ~ Freedom, Autonomy, Personal Choice, Staying Positive.

But that theme is expansive enough to incorporate a wide variety of topics which makes it more fun for me to write and, hopefully, more fun for my readers to read.

15. classyrose - March 7, 2011

Well Nancy, It looks like I came late to this posting and everything has already been said. But I’m sure I can find something to say. 😉

I agree wholeheartedly with all 7 points and I reply to every comment on my blog. If I miss one it’s an oversight.

Lately I would have to say that #4 is at the top of my list and I was thinking of writing about how “I find it annoying”. I know I missed reading some blog posts when I launched the Challenge but I thought that my regular readers and those that I support would understand how busy I was and it wasn’t because I was ignoring them. There just weren’t enough hours in the day to do everything. I did try and stop by some of the blogs and at least hit the “Like” to let them know I was there.

I’ll give it a bit more time to see if they begin reciprocating before I make any decisions on whether I continue reading and supporting them.

See, I knew I would find something to say. 😎

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

Excellent comment, Rose.

When I wasn’t so busy, #4 didn’t really bother me much. I read the posts I wanted to read and commented on them.

As I subscribed to more blogs, I started to notice that some bloggers seemed “friendlier” than others ~ responding to comments (like you do) and visiting (and promoting) other people’s blogs (like you do).

I started to gravitate to their posts first . . . leaving less “reciprocal” bloggers for later in the day.

But I still tried to read everyone’s blog posts every day.

When it started cutting into my sleep, I knew that I needed to cut some blogs. I chose to cut those blogs that rarely visit SLTW and also those blogs where comments are largely left unanswered.

It’s a better balance for me.

16. oldancestor - March 7, 2011

All great suggestions. I add that it’s important to give your blog an identity. If you review movies for a month and then start ranting how much you hate your boss for a week, the movie review readers will stop coming.

I like when people comment on my blog, but I’m ok if they don’t, even when I comment on theirs. As long as they stop by.

What I don’t like is when I leave comments on theirs that get ignored. If you’re that much of a rock star, why bother wasting your time blogging?

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

I debated not responding to this comment . . . I thought it might be nice to pretend to be a rock star.

“Yes, I’m going to be a rock star now.” {Cat Stevens}

In the end, I decided I’m too old to start acting like a rock star now. 😎

Except for the shades. They stay.

Thanks, OA! Great points.

17. oldancestor - March 7, 2011

Oops. It also helps when blogger friends add you their blogroll.


nrhatch - March 7, 2011

My pleasure.

Plus, if my e-mail subscriptions ever fail, I’ll be able to find my way back.

18. Paula Tohline Calhoun - March 7, 2011

Ain’t that the truth? It’s a good thing I have that blog roll and my subscriptions, or I would be lost. Of course, I might be lost anyway. . .

nrhatch - March 7, 2011

I rely so much on my e-mail notifications to let me know when new posts come in, and when comments are updated, etc.

Cindy’s e-mail glitch gave me the shivers.

19. libraryscene - March 7, 2011

As someone who blogs late at night (or, sometimes early in the morning using my mobile while on the bike trainer) the posts don’t always get edited promptly. Your post is a good reminder that I must try very hard the first time around BEFORE I hit send!

Enjoying your blog, thanks much!

nrhatch - March 8, 2011

I cannot even imagine writing a post “early in the morning using my mobile while on the bike trainer.”

You go, girl! 😀

Whether you need to make any changes depends upon WHY you blog and whether you’re getting everything you want from the experience.

If you just want to record your thoughts and don’t care about increasing traffic to your blog, suit yourself.

If you want to improve your writing skills, you need to work on polishing each post.

If you want to make friends and influence people, you can be guided by the comments you’re receiving.

When you know WHY you blog, you’ll know HOW to spend the time you have wisely.

Thanks for reading.

20. viewfromtheside - March 7, 2011

One thing about WordPress, the place to click to leave a comment isn’t the same for all themes. Sometimes I read something and would just like to say thanks to the person for the entertainment or enlightment, but I can’t find it.

Maybe it’s like Kate’s perimitive animals, wanders off to do other things, leaving me standing with nothing to see.

nrhatch - March 8, 2011

Maybe, you’re right ~ the perimitive animals have gone mid-field, leaving the goal unattended.

It definitely is not as obvious on some. It’s like the box is invisible. And the words “leave a comment” are quite light.

I move my mouse around until I find the secret passageway and can start typing.

That’s another way to improve your blog traffic ~ make sure your blog is user friendly.

Thanks, Sidey.

21. barb19 - March 8, 2011

I must say, I am enjoying my blogging journey, with the bonus of making new friends along the way! Everyone here helps each other and I have learned so much from my blogging buddies.
The more we read and comment on each other’s blogs, the more we get to know each other and so build lasting relationships. It’s all about communication. If someone has taken the time to comment on my post, the least I can do is reply.
OA made a good point about having a Blogroll on our sites. I’ve only just learned how to put one on my site with the help of Classyrose (thanks Rose), so I will be adding my friends as I go.

nrhatch - March 8, 2011

Good points, Barb.

I view comments on my blog as if someone has come up and said something to me at a party. Except in the rarest of cases, I would not stare at them, mouth idle, and let their words hang in the air.

I update my Blog Roll with some degree of irregularity ~ if I look for a blog on it that’s not there, I add a few more recent buddies to the roster. If I haven’t heard from a blog in a while, I check to see if their blog link still leads someplace.

classyrose - March 8, 2011

You’re welcome Barb, always glad to help a fellow blogger learn how to do things. 🙂

nrhatch - March 8, 2011

You’re a class act, Rose!

I’ve seen all the great support you provide to blogging buddies. You rock!

classyrose - March 8, 2011

Thanks Nancy, I receive a lot of enjoyment from helping others in whatever way I can. 😛

22. Sandra Bell Kirchman - March 8, 2011

First, I’d like to offer Suzicate my sincere empathy. My mother had terminal illness many years ago, and it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, especially about being cheerful around her to help her feel better, when all I felt like doing was crying. Somehow, though, the effort eventually soaked in enough to make me feel better too a little.

With respect to this post of Nancy’s, it is very encouraging and backing. Taking some of the pitfalls that bloggers sometimes get into and offering wise words of help is just very caring.

I am constantly amazed when I visit this site (and others) how much spiritual wisdom is running free. I believe we all have people whom we were meant to reach out and touch. They know who they are the minute they set eyes on us and our work. And we have people we need to have reach out and touch us. This has worked so many times in my life.

I’m not sure I have reached status of friend with many of you but I’m working on it. I’m a little overwhelmed at the moment with all the wonderful blogs that I want to read, but like most of you I have so little time. I’m supposed to be retired, but honestly I do more work now than I did when I wasn’t. However, that’s a whole nother story.

Anyhow, just thanks, Nancy 🙂

nrhatch - March 8, 2011

What a lovely comment, Sandra. Thank you.

Blogging (and life) should be fun. So if you are feeling overwhelmed by all the “shoulds,” ask “What do I WANT to do right now?” Then, do that.

I try not to add too many new blogs at once because then the new-to-me bloggers swim together in my mind.

And, remember, there is no rulebook for life or for blogging. When you know WHY you blog, you’ll know where to focus your time and attention.

Here’s to expanding friendships and scattering joy.

23. eof737 - March 8, 2011

Girlfriend you nailed it and I testify, peeps, that Nancy delivers on all counts. #4 is so true! Everybody is busy but many of us take the time to reciprocate… I’m with you on that one, and sadly, I have had to say goodbye to a few blogs. 🙂
Thank you!

nrhatch - March 8, 2011

Thanks, Eliz! I hesitated to include that one because it sounds so “tit for tat” and it’s not really that at all.

I don’t keep a scorecard on paper or in my head, but when 20-30 new posts are queued up in my in-box waiting to be read, I gravitate toward bloggers who have most recently visited SLTW or who are generally “supportive” of other bloggers.

Those who don’t respond to comments, or who rarely swing by here for a visit, drop to the bottom of the queue. They are read, time permitting, at the end of the day.

I like to have a “give and take” relationship with friends ~ in real time and in the cyber sphere. I lose interest in those who “take, take, take” without giving back.

Here’s to Better Blogging Etiquette! 😎

24. Piglet in Portugal - March 8, 2011

Hi…another great post!

Don’t write day after day about how many hairballs your cat coughed up or what you ate for breakfast. Love it… I nearly spluttered my tea over my keyboard when I read this as I laughed out loud. 🙂

You have the knack of echoing so many of my thoughts. Shame we are in different countries I would love to meet you!

I was just reading one of the blogs I subscribe to and the blogger has replied to everyones comments bar two; mine and one other. Both of us had written a thoughtful response and the blogger had replied to comments before and after ours 😦 Our words were just “hanging” there…

I think how people respond to comments is a good indication of the type of blogger they are.

I follow a Portuguese cookery/health blog, but it’s all in Portuguese. I “try” to comment in Portuguese (it’s hard work)as the blogger does not speak English. The blogger certainly makes me feel welcome despite our language barrier and my faltering attempts to write in Portuguese 😳

I could go on…but Mr Piglet is now nagging me do some housework; the dust he threatened to grow seeds in is still there!

I am def a blogaholic!


nrhatch - March 8, 2011

Thanks, PiP. I would love to sit down and have a cup of coffee with you under one of those umbrellas overlooking the beach!

Who knows? Maybe we’ll become travel writers and get paid to visit all our blogging friends around the world.

Til then, this shall have to suffice.

I don’t mind a blogger skipping over my comment if I’ve not said much. But when (as you’ve described) I’ve taken the time to write a thoughtful comment and it just “hangs there” in the air like a pregnant pause, I am disinclined to comment on future posts.

We have a rule in our house . . . he who spots the dust does the dusting. Nagging solved. 😎

Piglet in Portugal - March 8, 2011

Good rule Nancy!! 🙂

nrhatch - March 8, 2011


25. Alannah Murphy - March 8, 2011

Great advice Nancy. I think it’s also important to know why you’re blogging. I knew from the very start, my blog would never be something others would turn to read for help, my blog is more like some magazine you’d read in passing at times, not because I’ve got nothing helpful to say, but I just haven’t got the right personality to be offering advice on a daily basis etc, there are people out there who are great at that, I leave that to them.

At this time, it is also not my priority, I love it and enjoy it, but I’ve got my novel which is my priority (oh and oops, yeah, finding a job sometime soon….oops)

nrhatch - March 8, 2011

Great point, Alannah. I did a post on blogging a few weeks ago which made just that observation:

Is blogging a waggish waste of time?
Don’t ask ME . . .
Only YOU can answer that question.

As with any activity in life, mindful awareness of the WHY is THE KEY.

To read more:

Like life, blogging is not one size fits all.

Good luck with your WIP and finding a job where you want to live.

Alannah Murphy - March 8, 2011

Thanks Nancy, that was a great post. I definitely write to share thoughts/opinions/experiences with others, which is why I do not blog on a regular basis (though I try) but I cannot “force” myself to write a post. It has to happen when I am in the right frame of mind, and it has to come from the heart, because if not, then, I do not enjoy it, and anyone who reads it would probably be able to tell that.

Found a lovely place to live (still in my beloved Londinium) now I just need an agent and a job (perhaps not in that order lol) and I’ll be set 🙂

nrhatch - March 8, 2011

Even though Jon Kabat-Zinn might say, “Wherever You Go, There You Are,” I think that some environments are more conducive to our happiness than others.

Where we lay our head at night matters . . . at least to me.

So glad that you found a place to reside that resonates with WHO you are right here, right now.

Keep on truckin’ . . . the future is NEXT.

26. Pseu - March 8, 2011


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27. Greg Camp - March 8, 2011

I saw the following on a church sign: Remember that every oak tree was once a little nut that stood its ground. That’s how I look at what I write.

nrhatch - March 8, 2011

Man, Greg, that quote ties in perfectly with the next post too! Cool!

Before we become “who we want to be” (majestic oaks), we must first be “a little nut that stood its ground.”


28. 4minutewriter - March 9, 2011

Your blog is definitely proof that your methods work- new commenters everyday, it seems, and us old folks keep coming back!

nrhatch - March 9, 2011

I read a terrific post yesterday about Twitter that applies here (and at cocktail parties too):


In sum, Kristen reminded readers to give others a balance of:

1/3 Information + 1/3 Communication + 1/3 Reciprocation

Share interesting tidbits of information.
Be friendly during conversations.
Listen to others tell their stories.

Thanks for swinging by, Zoe.

29. barb - March 9, 2011

Great post! I do try to respond to all comments because I really do appreciate them all. I love it when someone takes the busy time out of their day to leave a comment. It’s such a great feeling.

nrhatch - March 9, 2011

Thanks, Barb. It is nice to know that we are not talking to ourselves. 🙂

My favorite comments are those that add value to the topic being discussed ~ by adding something new, or clarifying points made, or even disputing points made based on divergent views of the world.

30. Booksphotographsandartwork - March 9, 2011

There are three blogs that I have subscribed too and I don’t get their emails! It’s driving me crazy. I have even re-subscribed. Cindy is one and Ric and I can’t remember the other person’s name.

nrhatch - March 9, 2011

Cindy’s having some problems with her e-mail. Don’t know if that affects her FB account or not.

Rik moved his blog from one server to another and he lost all his subscriptions during the switch. Uphill Writing’s on my sidebar if you want to subscribe again.

31. Booksphotographsandartwork - March 9, 2011

Oh and love the pics in this piece. The little frogs are soooooooooooooooo cute.

nrhatch - March 9, 2011

I love frogs . . . especially in the nice weather when we can sleep with the windows open and listen to the frog chorus as we go to sleep.

You might enjoy this post:


32. pegbur7 - December 27, 2011

Great advice which I will take to heart!

nrhatch - December 27, 2011

Enjoy the journey! 😀

33. Adam S - November 21, 2012

Damn. You weren’t kidding about the responses! This is a great article Nancy. I swear I didn’t know about it when I wrote mine haha! Doesn’t all this seem like common sense? I love your analogies too btw. That’s exactly what it is — a store. Personally, when I get bad service, I find some place else to get whatever I need. Too many people take their readers for granted. I don’t get it? It’s not like we’re bringing in a million views a day — that I can understand. Thirty comments or less calls for a little reciprocation!

nrhatch - November 21, 2012

Exactly. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve posted a supportive and substantive comment on a new-to-me blog without getting an acknowledgement to the comment . . . even if there were only a sprinkling of other comments on the post.

Feeling invisible didn’t make me want to rush back and comment on their next post. 😉

34. savitha jvn - September 2, 2013

hey, nice post there, am new to wordpress, and its really helpful, thank you 🙂

nrhatch - September 2, 2013

Welcome to the cyber sea! Enjoy your blogging experience.

savitha jvn - September 2, 2013

Thank you! Will be reading more of your blogs from.now on!

nrhatch - September 2, 2013

Thanks. Have fun looking around.

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