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Wasted Days and Wasted Nights December 15, 2010

Posted by nrhatch in Gratitude, Happiness, Mindfulness.

220px-Alice_par_John_Tenniel_27Whenever we refuse to forgive, we are saying “I would rather be right than happy.”

Not a very pleasant way to go through life.

Whenever we feel “entitled” to hold on to our anger, hurt, and pain . . . the same is true.

We are holding on to something that is blocking peace and happiness from our life.

What a waste.

Let go of the past and embrace the present.

Related posts:  Be The Change You Wish To See * How To Be Happy Now * When Couples Fight * Resentful * Forgiving and Forgetting



1. Cindy - December 15, 2010

So very true… a total waste!

nrhatch - December 15, 2010

I’ve known people who hung on to resentments for MINOR infractions for 10, 20, even 30 years!

They were NOT happy people. 😉

2. kateshrewsday - December 15, 2010

Well, I’m inspired.
I’m a terrible grudge holder. Christmas is a great time to let go – thanks, Nancy.

nrhatch - December 15, 2010

Even if they don’t “deserve” our forgiveness . . . we do! 🙂

Let it out and let it go . . .

3. Shannon Sullivan - December 15, 2010

Thank you! 😉

nrhatch - December 15, 2010

You’re welcome, Shannon.

Tina Su’s post, When Couples Fight, contains terrific advice and has garnered wonderful comments from her “happy” (or soon-to-be happy) readers. 🙂

4. duke1959 - December 15, 2010

Good Stuff! I can’t remember the last time my wife and I had a fight. Its just not worth the energy!

nrhatch - December 15, 2010

Same here. In 26 years of marriage, I can count our fights on one hand. 😉

Happiness is being married to your best friend.

5. Paula Tohline Calhoun - December 15, 2010

The only “fights” Ashley and I have ever had (and those number in the single digits)are because one hasn’t read the other’s mind. Because usually we do, and have come to expect it! (And usually get it!)

Forgiveness might be good for the person forgiven – if they have asked for it – but I believe the primary benefit is always for the forgiver. there’s way too much baggage in your life if you walk around holding on to that crap! A two-way relationship may have been sacrificed by the “infraction,” but a holding a grudge is no benefit to anyone. That reminds me (!) of a little ditty I was taught when a child: “When confronted with a foe: praise him, bless him, let him go.”

nrhatch - December 15, 2010

Glad you remembered that little ditty ~ it definitely bears repeating.

Being quick to forgive, and releasing the pent up emotions . . . keeps the lifeblood flowing.

6. Carol Ann Hoel - December 15, 2010

Blessed words of wisdom. I love the photo! It fits perfectly. Thank you for sharing…

nrhatch - December 15, 2010

Thanks, Carol Ann! Peace to you and yours.

7. milkfever - December 15, 2010

Yes, yes, yes. So true. I can’t remember who said this but it goes something like this: not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and hoping the other person gets sick.
Thanks for the lovely reminder to fill our hearts with love instead of resentment.

nrhatch - December 15, 2010

Exactly! I know the expression, but not the original author. Whoever said it, it’s so true.

Failure to forgive hurts “us” not “them.”

Paula Tohline Calhoun - December 16, 2010

That quote goes in my memory bank of future “That reminds me” comments. It’s perfect! Thank you, Milk Fever – I’ll be checking out your blog!

8. jannatwrites - December 15, 2010

Great reminder. I’d like to say that I’m an easy forgiver, but sometimes I do hold onto things longer than I should…

nrhatch - December 16, 2010

I’ve ditched the mental “scoreboard” used to record occasional “flub ups” and minor transgressions.

Now, I’m attempting to develop compassion for repeat offenders who continue to “slap us in the face” ~ e.g., animal abusers, factory farmers, politicians, pedophile priests, etc.

It’s much harder for me to “forgive” behavior that is still transpiring.

9. Sana Johnson-Quijada MD - December 16, 2010

really nice. anger, grudges, resentment – wasted space in life. thanks for sharing this. it resonated! i wrote a related post some time ago “Forgive to Get Friendly with Yourself http://wp.me/p10lj3-lW
keep on!

nrhatch - December 16, 2010

The road to forgiveness can be a bit bumpy . . . but it’s best to forge ahead.

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