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What’s The BEST That Could Happen? September 29, 2010

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Mindfulness, People.
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 In The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling and Start Living, Russ Harris discusses how to use ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) to learn to accept ourselves as we are, while reducing our tendency to worry about anything and everything:   

Our brains were designed to protect us from danger, real and potential.  As a result, our thoughts are constantly  evaluating the scenery around us, and judging situations as good or bad.  

At the same time, we are struggling to fit in with the group, because our odds of survival in the past increased when we banded together.   

In other words, our minds are pre-programmed to worry about things that, more often than not, never happen, and to seek approval and acceptance from others, rather than being true to ourselves.  

As a result of this pre-wiring, we tend to evaluate situations by asking ourselves:  

What’s the WORST that could happen?  

We then use our imaginations to create WORST Case Scenarios that fuel our fear and give us things to worry about:  

* If I submit this story for publication, it might get rejected.  

* If it’s rejected, people will laugh at me.  

* Sigh.  I’ll never be able to earn a living as a writer.  

* I better not submit this story.  

What if we stopped imagining WORST Case Scenarios?  

What if we started using our imagination to create BEST Case Scenarios?  

What if we asked ourselves:  

What’s the BEST that could happen?  

We could then use our imaginations to overcome our fear of uncertainty and forge ahead in the direction of our dreams:  

* If I submit this story for publication, it might get accepted.  

* If it’s accepted, I would start to earn a living as a writer.  

* I better finish and submit this story.  

We need to stop giving our power away.    

Every time we choose to focus on a negative, we are depleting our reserves rather than re-charging our  batteries.   We can use creative visualization and our imaginations to our advantage, not our detriment.   

It’s EASY!   

Instead of picturing worst case scenarios, see things as you want them to be.    

No rules.  Just write!

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Sweet! Tweet! HootSuite! September 29, 2010

Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Life Balance, People.
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First, we had the telephone, and we saw it was good.

Then, we had the cell phone, and we saw it was better.

Then, the internet arrived and we received e-mailed updates from friends.

So . . . much . . . better . . . than . . . snail mail.

With the internet firmly entrenched in our lives, social networking sites like Facebook appeared on the scene to  connect (and disconnect) us still further.

We learned to access e-mail, Facebook, and the internet from our Blackberries.

Sweet!

We learned to Twitter and Tweet.

Tweet!

Now there’s HootSuite!

HootSuite!

HootSuite n : yet another layer of technology to coordinate all the other layers of technology that keep us from living in the real world.  

What I want to know . . .

How do people who have their noses perpetually pressed to the latest and greatest techno gadget or gizmo ever have anything worthwhile to Tweet about?

No rules.  Just write!

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