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My BFF: Best Friend Forever September 13, 2010

Posted by nrhatch in Gratitude, Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness, People.

In Virtual Friendships, we explored the watered down concept of friendship that’s been spawned in Social Networking Sites such as Facebook.

Now, let’s look at what we can expect from our BFFs . . . Best Friends Forever. 

I’ve been friends with my BFF for more than thirty years ~ throughout that time, we’ve strengthened our friendship in a myriad of ways:      

(1) We treat each other with mutual respect and admiration, which allows us to express  our true feelings and honest opinions, knowing they won’t get trampled (or tossed about at the water cooler for a laugh at our expense).

(2) We accept that we will not always see eye to eye, especially in the political arena.  Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something  different based on their differing experiences in life.

(3) When we have differing perspectives on politics or philosophy (or crown molding!), we are able to exchange viewpoints without getting into a shouting match.   Being loud rarely makes someone “more right.”

(4) We listen to each other, confide in one another,  trust one another,  and do our best to understand  and accept one another.  Why make the effort?  Because we like each other!  

(5) We realize we are responsible for what we do and say, no matter how we feel.  We know that  being angry doesn’t give us the right to be cruel.

(6) When necessary, we are quick to apologize.  We forgive and forget.  We don’t keep scoreOnce an argument is tabled, we don’t use it to fuel the flames at a later date on an unrelated matter. 

(7) We ask for what we need (and want), and play to each other’s strengthsLucky for me, his strengths include dusting, vacuuming, and doing laundry. 

(8) We set our own priorities, even if it means saying, “no thanks.”  He knows he does NOT need to go bar hopping with me.  I know I do not need to attend car shows with him.       

(9) We encourage each other to change, grow, and evolve into exactly who we want to be.  Even if constancy would be convenient, we don’t expect the other to stagnate on our account.  We understand that things  change, even best friends.

(10) When one of us makes a mistake, the other helps  mop up the mess and provides support (without rubbing our noses in it first).  They’ll be plenty of time to share a laugh about the faux pas or blunder later! 

(11) We do our best to get along.  When the going gets rocky, we try to make it right before we turn out the light & say “Good Night.”

(12) We share a sense of humor about life, tend to laugh at the same jokes, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company, no matter what we’re doing.  We can do anything, or nothing, and have a great time because we love hanging out together.

(13) We have similar tastes in food, wine, and song which makes meal planning a breeze.  We’d rather split a pizza and beer, than drop $100 at a  posh restaurant where you have to deconstruct a tower of food before you can eat it.

How about you and your BFF . . . how do the two of you define friendship?



1. Agatha82 - September 13, 2010

Mutual respect is certainly one thing. I certainly hope she is my life forever. It helps to have tons of things in common and like your and your friend. We do not see eye to eye on some things, but we leave that aside (Politics is one. She cares about it and I could care less lol)

nrhatch - September 13, 2010

We don’t entirely avoid political discussions, but we don’t make them “dinnertable conversation.”

It would give one or both of us indigestion. 8)

2. Naomi - September 13, 2010

Exquisitely put, Nancy! Wonderful to hear about your beautiful friendship. I consider myself also incredibly blessed. Not a day goes by that we don’t say thank you 🙂

nrhatch - September 13, 2010

I realized after posting that I didn’t expressly mention expressing gratitude. I should have.

We thank each other constantly so we always feel appreciated (except on rare occasions).

3. Joanne - September 13, 2010

Nancy, if your BFF is Bill, I’d like to know if he has a clone somewhere out there… It would great to be married to a BFF like that. You’re both lucky to have each other 😀

nrhatch - September 13, 2010

It is. And we are.

Sorry, he can’t be cloned, but I’ll keep my fingers crossed that you find yourself a reasonable facsimile. 8)

4. souldipper - September 13, 2010

Nancy, what a tribute to a solidly healthy and worthwhile relationship that exists within a marriage. What a blessing for both of you. Well done.

nrhatch - September 13, 2010

I agree!

Happiness is being married to your BFF.

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