My BFF: Best Friend Forever September 13, 2010Posted by nrhatch in Gratitude, Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness, People.
In Virtual Friendships, we explored the watered down concept of friendship that’s been spawned in Social Networking Sites such as Facebook.
Now, let’s look at what we can expect from our BFFs . . . Best Friends Forever.
I’ve been friends with my BFF for more than thirty years ~ throughout that time, we’ve strengthened our friendship in a myriad of ways:
(1) We treat each other with mutual respect and admiration, which allows us to express our true feelings and honest opinions, knowing they won’t get trampled (or tossed about at the water cooler for a laugh at our expense).
(2) We accept that we will not always see eye to eye, especially in the political arena. Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something different based on their differing experiences in life.
(3) When we have differing perspectives on politics or philosophy (or crown molding!), we are able to exchange viewpoints without getting into a shouting match. Being loud rarely makes someone “more right.”
(5) We realize we are responsible for what we do and say, no matter how we feel. We know that being angry doesn’t give us the right to be cruel.
(6) When necessary, we are quick to apologize. We forgive and forget. We don’t keep score. Once an argument is tabled, we don’t use it to fuel the flames at a later date on an unrelated matter.
(7) We ask for what we need (and want), and play to each other’s strengths. Lucky for me, his strengths include dusting, vacuuming, and doing laundry.
(8) We set our own priorities, even if it means saying, “no thanks.” He knows he does NOT need to go bar hopping with me. I know I do not need to attend car shows with him.
(9) We encourage each other to change, grow, and evolve into exactly who we want to be. Even if constancy would be convenient, we don’t expect the other to stagnate on our account. We understand that things change, even best friends.
(10) When one of us makes a mistake, the other helps mop up the mess and provides support (without rubbing our noses in it first). They’ll be plenty of time to share a laugh about the faux pas or blunder later!
(11) We do our best to get along. When the going gets rocky, we try to make it right before we turn out the light & say “Good Night.”
(12) We share a sense of humor about life, tend to laugh at the same jokes, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company, no matter what we’re doing. We can do anything, or nothing, and have a great time because we love hanging out together.
(13) We have similar tastes in food, wine, and song which makes meal planning a breeze. We’d rather split a pizza and beer, than drop $100 at a posh restaurant where you have to deconstruct a tower of food before you can eat it.
How about you and your BFF . . . how do the two of you define friendship?