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Be Absolutely Determined August 21, 2010

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Humor, Mindfulness, People.

Life is full of rules, regulations, philosophies, theories, debate, instructions, and all manner of well meaning and conflicting advice. 

Follow it at your peril. 

The alternative?

(1) Trust yourself and you will know how to live. ~ Goethe

(2) Be absolutely determined to enjoy what you do. ~ Gerry Sikorski 

Writers who study writing books for tips and techniques often complain of being thoroughly confused by the conflicting advice offered by various authors.  Likewise with bloggers who try to emulate what works for others  rather than taking the time to figure out what works best for them.

Before starting Spirit Lights The Way, I didn’t read a bunch of other blogs to try and copy their approach to blogging.  I didn’t sign up for classes on blogging taught by seasoned bloggers.  I didn’t create a list of rules to follow as I blogged each day. 

After being a Guest Blogger on Uphill Writing, I decided to give it a go. 

Rather than standing on the sidelines, worrying about whether or not I might make a mistake, I just dove into the blog-o-sphere absolutely determined to enjoy the experience each day while allowing “the way to teach me the way.” 

No rules.  Just write!

Did I have a few questions about the technical aspects?  Sure.  And I found people (like Rik!) who could answer them. 

But I never felt the need to look to others to decide what to write about, or how to convey what I wanted to convey.

Maybe my blog would be more popular if I followed the Rule Books, but it would be less fun for me.  I’d rather figure it out as I go along.

Maybe the Search Engines would elevate my posts more often if I followed the Guidelines for Optimizing Titles and Tags, but it would be less fun for me.  I want to call my post what I want to call it, not what 213 other bloggers would call it. 

When you are absolutely determined to enjoy what you do,  you aren’t afraid of making mistakes or taking detours along the way.  Instead you just take it one delightful step at a time.

Rather than aiming for some distant destination, your one and only goal is to enjoy the journey through life.  As a result, you win!  

No matter what happens, you win.

Related post on enjoying the journey:  Journey (Naomi’s Notes)

For wonderful writing advice, especially when well-meaning friends say, “You know what you should write about?” or “I’ve got a great idea for a story!”:  Keeping Focused by Jennifer R. Hubbard (Becky Levine)


1. jelillie - August 21, 2010

Thank you. There really is a joy in the journey that so many miss because they are too concerned about conforming to what others would do. I’m learning to walk my own journey here.

nrhatch - August 21, 2010

Walking to the beat of your own drummer is a wonderful way to enjoy the journey through life!

Thanks for commenting.

2. crazygoangirl - August 21, 2010

Thanks! I needed to hear that. My blog is a part of me and we evolve together…uniquely.

nrhatch - August 21, 2010

It is an evolution, each step building on the one before it.

Enjoy the journey.

3. alelell - August 22, 2010

I have only read this one blog so far, but it was enough for me to subscribe to your blogs. Thank you for the creativity you bring to this new world for me (I am just starting out on blogging).

nrhatch - August 22, 2010

Thanks for subscribing!

Blogging is so much FUN . . . as long as I listen to what I want to write (which is what I would want to read).

Enjoy the journey through the blog-o-sphere. If you do have questions, just ask.

Most of the bloggers on my Blog Roll are happy to answer questions about finding photos, setting up blogs, etc. And definitely check out Uphill Writing.

Good Luck!

4. thewondermya - August 22, 2010

hi there

i love the message about the delightful, i am going to try a little bit of this in my own life right now, thanks a lot !

nrhatch - August 22, 2010


When enjoying the journey becomes “the destination,” we flow more smoothly through life.

5. Naomi - August 23, 2010

Fabulously said, Nancy! Your method clearly works beautifully. It’s always a pleasure to read your posts. And thanks a million for dropping in a link to mine – delightedly unexpected 🙂 You’re a darling and deserve your loyal readers!

nrhatch - August 23, 2010

Thanks, Naomi. Ditto. Loved your post on the journey.

If more people took time to really enjoy the journey, we’d have more happiness floating around.

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