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How To Be Happy NOW July 25, 2010

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Health & Wellness, Humor, Mindfulness.

If you want to be happy, if happiness is a priority for you, here is a step-by-step guide to being happy right HERE, right NOW:

1.  Start by observing your thoughts.  Watch them as they arise and drift across your brain.  Don’t chase after them.  Don’t hang on to them.  Just watch them.

See yourself not as the creator of the thoughts arising in your mind . . . but as the detached observer of those thoughts.

2.  If a negative thought enters your consciousness, ask first if it is true.

Hmm . . .

3.  If it is just a “lie” (e.g., it’s IMPOSSIBLE for me to lose weight“), let it drift away to be replaced with a more positive thought.

If it refuses to leave, wave your arms like a whirligig and scare it away:  SHOO!  SHOO!

4.  If it’s the truth (e.g., blackened pelicans are dying in the Gulf of Mexico), ask whether there is something you can do either right now or in the immediate future to ease the suffering.

Hmm . . .

5.  If so, make a list of things that you can do to alleviate the suffering.  Pick one item from your action list and do it.  Don’t think about it.  Just do it.

Caveat:  If executing the CEO of BP is on your list, cross it off.  Killing people is sure to bring you bad Karma, if not in this lifetime, then in the next.

6.  If there is nothing you can do about the situation at present, let the thought drift away of its own accord.  Let it go.

If it lingers, promise that you will gladly give it ALL the time and attention it deserves on TUESDAY!

If it still won’t leave, chase after it with a broom:  GET OUT!!!

7.  If the thought is true, determine whether it is a “current” issue (e.g., my husband died yesterday).  If so, allow yourself a reasonable time to grieve your loss.

Just remember to return to the land of the living as soon as possible.  We’ll leave the light on for you.

8.  If the thought is a sad, stale memory that keeps surfacing (e.g., no one liked me when I was in high school and I still can’t figure out why), let it go.

Picture a memory graveyard in your mind, and lead the funeral procession.  Bury it once and for all.

You are no longer that person being tormented in the corridors and dusty hallways of the past by a bunch of Broccoli Heads.  The Broccoli Heads who tormented you have moved on too ~ they are now married with children.  Let them carry their own Karmic baggage.

9.  Once you have chased away unproductive negative thoughts, look around you.  Find something positive, uplifting, happy, or joyous to smile about ~ a butterfly, a lovely sonata, a baby bunny, the perfect peach.

If you don’t see, smell, hear, taste, or feel anything worth smiling about, keep looking until you find something. 

10.  Still nothing???  Pull out a sheet of paper and make a list of things that you’re grateful for.

(1) I’m breathing.  (2)  Someday I’ll stop breathing.  (3) Chocolate.   

11.  Still nothing???  Read through the last 13 posts on Spirit Lights The Way until you find one that tickles your Funny Bone Chakra.

May I suggest  Spread Joy! for your first course, with a side of Laughter is NOT a Luxury, followed by a heaping helping of I Feel Good! for dessert???

12.  Still nothing???  Then smile about nothing.  You have reached rock bottom and there is nowhere to go but UP.

Smile, smile, laugh for awhile.  Good Times don’t come easy . . .

13.  Great, you’re smiling!  Let happiness flow through your being, recharging your batteries.  Smile.  Feel your mood elevate.  Smile.  Relax into the blissful current of life in the now.  Smile.

Aah, that’s better.

You didn’t change a thing . . . except your perspective.

Quote: Don’t be the prisoner of your past.  Be the architect of your future.

Related post on Uphill Writing:  The Horror That Is Fate


1. Angel - July 25, 2010

What a lovely uplifting post. It is quite strange how things work out – I have not had too good a day today then I stumble upon your blog and have just found myself smiling. Do you mind if I print out your step-by-step guide?

Thank you and many hugs,


nrhatch - July 25, 2010

Absolutely, print away!

Ya’ll come back now, y’hear! : )

2. Barbara Gunn - July 25, 2010

The thought of a memory graveyard is pretty funny and very affective!

nrhatch - July 25, 2010

I know, isn’t it!?

You can bury it in style. Have a funeral procession like those held in New Orleans . . . with Jazz musicians playing (St. James Infirmary), and voodoo dolls swaying.

A celebration of death. What fun!

3. GretchensPianos - July 25, 2010

Hi Nancy,

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh… thank you! I’ll be back to read this again!

Just wanted to say, a few yrs. ago I returned to my home town to play a concert. 12 people from my high school class showed up! After being miserable in h.s., it was such a surprise… so much fun this time.

Things DO change.


nrhatch - July 25, 2010

Things definitely do change, often for the better, once we are willing to let go of the chains that hold us back.

Glad you enjoyed . . . and that you had a chance to have fun with your old classmates.

4. mizzezmellymel - August 2, 2010

This was very inspiring! Thanks for sharing this post.

nrhatch - August 2, 2010

You’re welcome. I have far fewer ANTs now then when I started the spiritual journey . . . but they do still appear on occasion.

This is my can of R.A.I.D. to send them packing.

Thanks for dropping by.

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