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Between The Wish & The Thing March 21, 2010

Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, Mindfulness.

Over the years, we’ve done a wonderful job of clearing clutter from our physical environment:

* We’ve donated books, and clothes, and knick knacks and paddywacks to good causes. 

* We’ve purged files so that our filing cabinet is not bulging at the seams.

* We’ve streamlined our photo albums so that we aren’t forced to rent a separate U-Haul just to move our memories from point “A” to point “B.” 

* We’ve straightened drawers and closets and wardrobes so that we have what we need and actually use what we have.

And still our lives are filled with clutter ~ the invisible clutter of unreal (and unreasonable) expectations which rob us of peace, joy, and happiness on a daily basis because we’re stumbling around them, getting tripped up on our thoughts, instead of living the life we want to live.  A few examples: 

I wish my parents were younger.  I wish my parents were not isolated in a house that’s grown too large for their needs.  I wish my parents would move to Florida where I could see them every day.

I wish my sister did not have health issues that blur her vision and prevent her from working and driving.  I wish my nieces and nephews were still tiny tots with sticky fingers who loved giggling with me over the silliest of things.

I wish my body could meet all the demands I place on it, without aches and pains.  I wish I would lose that last ten pounds.  I wish that I would get motivated to exercise, instead of sitting around like a lump of Play-Doh.  I wish healthy, delicious, good-for-me food would magically appear on my plate every evening.  I wish that my clothes fit perfectly.

I wish that I felt strong and healthy and enthusiastic every morning when I rolled out of bed.  I wish that only those things that truly matter would occupy my time, my heart, and my head.  I wish I would learn to accept the things I cannot change. 

I wish I could earn a living from my writing.  I wish . . .

Between the wish and the thing, life lies waiting.

So, that’s my resolution for 2010:  To stop tripping myself up on mental clutter that is doing nothing more than stealing my peace, piece by piece.  Starting today, I am going to focus on letting go of all the self-defeating thoughts that make me feel anxious instead of calm.  I’m going to be completely honest with myself.

The “what is” is.  ~ And no amount of wishing will change it.

If I want a life filled with creativity, joy and peace, there is only one place to find that happiness ~ in the here and now. 

Living in the past will not produce the tranquility, stillness, and balance that I need to live life with passion.  No matter how or where I lost my way, the path is here, now ~ leading me on to the life of my dreams.

If you don’t have the life you want, start making changes . . . because it’s not going to land in your lap.

I will focus on finding a calm, centered way of living that refreshes and restores me.  I will achieve balance in my life by making more positive choices (daily exercise) and fewer negative choices (allowing myself to fret about things that don’t matter, or that are outside my control).  

I’m going to stop looking over my shoulder and move forward with my life.  I’m going to tune out the past and tune in to the here and now.

When you have conquered the enemy within, there are no enemies left to conquer.

I’m going to live in the moment, reconnect with favorite hobbies and friends, and clear away activities that don’t serve my vision.  I’m going to use my time wisely, find joy in being, and act in accordance with my values. I’m going to fill my life with the inner calm and peace that are always there for the asking . . . as long as we remember to ask.  I’m going to clear out the mental clutter and open my internal landscape to blessings and opportunities. 

I’m going to give the Universe a little room to work its magic.


1. Joanne - March 21, 2010

And I’m going to pass this article on to the ones I would like to hear me on the very same topic of physical, emotional and mental clutter… I couldn’t have written it better — even though I have had a series of thoughts of my own that I will write down soon — about how to examine our our physical environments for clues that we still have unseen clutter we thought we cleared… Great topic, Nancy…!

2. nrhatch - March 21, 2010


I felt the same way as I read through Enough Already! by Peter Walsh (last post ~ You Better Stop Shopping Around).

He pointed out how easily we stuff issues away in the “junk drawers” in our minds . . . rather than taking each thought out, examining it, deciding whether it still has a useful purpose, and purging the clutter.

As we start to purge our ANTS (automatic negative thoughts) . . . we gain clarity in our decision making and move more purposefully in the direction of our dreams.

3. Mitzi Swift - March 27, 2010

Me too!!! Thank you!

4. nrhatch - March 27, 2010

The Universe is full of magick . . .

Have a wonderful night, Mitzi! : )

5. nrhatch - August 15, 2010

Just remember:

If you’re not actively involved in getting what you want, you don’t really want it.

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