We Are Not The Labels We Wear February 22, 2010Posted by nrhatch in Humor, Life Balance, Mindfulness, People.
Tags: Demographic Labels, Margaret Cho, The Scarlet Letter
Seriously? Boomer Bashing?
First, being a baby boomer is not a protected classification, for good reason . . . it’s a fictionalized label used for demographic profiling.
Gay bashing is politically incorrect. Boomer bashing is merely saying that you disagree with some of the people some of the time (since boomers make up half of the planet).
Second, I am in the demographic profile of baby boomer ~ why would I want to beat myself up?
People have so many roles in life, associating oneself (or others) with any one label, while ignoring the rest, makes little sense.
Among other things, I am (or have been): writer, musician, painter, blogger, published author, yoga enthusiast, artist, grant writer, vegetarian, guitar player, songwriter, environmentalist, actress, attorney, editor, movie goer, baby boomer, pet owner, poet, activist, consumer . . . and the list goes on.
I am also an a-social, a-political, spiritual introvert, who is occasionally the life of the party. I have been both student and teacher, leader and follower, director and directed. I have never been an Olympic gold medalist.
If someone dislikes vegetarians, or people who meditate, I do not need to get offended. If someone makes fun of writers, or bloggers, I can choose to take it in stride. If someone attacks spirituality, musicians, artists, or attorneys, I can laugh it off and let it go because they have not had the same experiences that I have, so why should they have the same beliefs that I do.
(1) their opinion is just an opinion, which is neither right nor wrong; and
(2) I am all of these things, and none of these things.
The roles I have “played” have nothing to do with the totality of who I am at this moment ~ they are just labels, which do not define the essence of “me,” nor are they written on my forehead with indelible ink.
For that reason, when challenged, I can disassociate myself from any one, or all, of these roles, rather than being caught up in an automatic tidal wave of emotion designed to defend my ego from attack.
Before a filmed presentation, I’m the One that I Want, Margaret Cho said she was not intimidated by the large crowd who had come to watch her perform in her hometown of San Francisco, just of two people in the audience – her parents – because she knew they would not approve of everything she planned to say.
How did she face her fear?
She disassociated herself from her role as “daughter” long enough to do the show in her role as “stand up comedian.”
She didn’t “stop” being a daughter. She just set that role aside for the duration of her act so that she could be who she wanted to be at that moment in time ~ an entertainer focused on making people laugh.
You are not the car you drive. You are not the clothes you wear. And you are not the labels, especially demographic labels, which people choose to apply to you.
Unlike Hester, of Scarlet Letter fame, you can shrug off any and every label and just be who you are . . . a unique individual who defies classification based on one small aspect of their personality (past, present or future).
Trust me, when you no longer feel as if you are walking around with a bulls-eye on your forehead, life is infinitely easier.
Our infinite worth lies beyond all labels.
No Rules. Just Write!