How To Fake “Happy” June 10, 2013
Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Health & Wellness, Life Balance, Mindfulness.Tags: Depression, Happiness, Health, Life Balance, Mood, Wellness
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People often say I am the most positive person they know . . . that I give them a daily dose of much needed “positivity.”
When I admit that I’ve struggled to maintain equilibrium since my teens, they are inclined to disbelief.
“But . . . you seem so happy.”
Of course I do.
Happiness is my life preserver.
If I didn’t fake “happy,” I would be sucked into the murky depths of despair by the state of the world.
You can fake “happy” too.
* Smile, though your heart is aching.
* Laugh when you feel like crying.
* Claim what isn’t, as if it were, until it becomes.
The best way to be happy is to be happy.
Simple in concept, but challenging in application. Like any other skill (writing, singing, dancing, playing a musical instrument), if we wish to become more proficient, we must practice, practice, practice.
It is in the doing that we become.
Aah . . . that’s better!
Quote to Ponder: We do not laugh because we are happy. We are happy because we laugh. ~ William James
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I Am NOT A Bottle of Wine June 8, 2013
Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Lessons, Mindfulness, People.Tags: Happiness, Labels, Life Lessons, Mindfulness, People, Stereotypes
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I steer clear of labels for several related reasons:
(1) Labels are superficial. Hypocrites wear labels, claiming to be one thing while doing another. Actions speak louder than words.
(2) Labels are superfluous. We don’t have to call ourselves “feminists” to be pro-active in the fight for equality. All we have to do is keep coming back to the task.
(3) Labels are imprecise. Meanings shift from place to place, person to person, and with changing times. A label might mean one thing to me and hold a different meaning for you.
When we characterize our actions and beliefs with labels, we can get caught up defending ourselves against out-dated stereotypes and over-generalizations.
(4) Labels encourage people to pigeon-hole us, to presume to know more about us than they do, all based on a label applied to our countenance.
They ask what we do so they know which cubbyhole to stick us in:
Rich man? Poor man? Beggar man? Thief? Doctor? Lawyer? Indian chief?
Cocktail party questions are a convenient form of shorthand communication. Nothing more.
(5) Labels are misleading. The things we have done and the roles we have “played” don’t define the totality of who we are at THIS moment.
“If who you are is what you do, who are you when you don’t?”
(6) Labels are limiting. Words can’t encompass the essence of “me.” Trying to distill ourselves down to a single word or phrase is frustrating.
How could we ever hope to encapsulate our infinite awesomeness in words?
(7) Once we realize we are NOT the labels we wear, we see who we really are.
And we are FREE.
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When I first stopped practicing law, I didn’t know how to respond when people asked the ubiquitous question, “What do you do?”
I didn’t have a “new label” to apply.
I decided I don’t need a label.
I am NOT a bottle of wine.
Or a banana.
Aah . . . that’s better!
Quote to Ponder: Our infinite worth lies beyond all labels.
Three Perspectives on Endings May 23, 2013
Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Humor, Life Lessons, Poetry.Tags: Dr. Seuss, Humor, Poetry, Shel Silverstein, The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel
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How we see life depends on which end of the telescope we gaze through:
There are no happy endings.
Endings are the saddest part,
So just give me a happy middle
And a very happy start.
~ Shel Silverstein, Every Thing on It
Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.
~ Dr. Seuss (perhaps)
All will be well in the end.
If all is not well, it is not yet the end.
~ The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel
Aah . . . that’s better!
Which quote suits you best? Does it depend upon your proximity to “The End”?
Mozart Mirrored God’s Symphony May 16, 2013
Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Mindfulness, Synchronicity & Mystery.Tags: Happiness, Music, Passion, Purpose, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
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Mozart composed beautiful music at an age when most children are still playing with blocks.
He tapped into “all that is” and transcribed what he heard.
Mozart mirrored God’s symphony.
We best serve our fellow travelers by expressing our unique gifts and talents to the world, not by sacrificing ourselves for others.
Our spiritual essence knows why we are here and nudges us in the right direction. It wants us to accomplish what we set out to accomplish.
Our purpose is to discover our purpose and pursue it with passion.
Aah . . . that’s better!
Quote to Ponder: Don’t worry about what the world wants from you. Focus on what makes you feel more fully alive. What the world really needs are people who are fully alive.~ Joseph Campbell
The Anchor & The Wind April 20, 2013
Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, Life Lessons, Mindfulness.Tags: Life Balance, Life Lessons, Mindfulness, Sail, Wind
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Contentment can be an anchor . . . keeping us moored in “safe harbors.”
Discontent can be the wind in our sails . . . pushing us
to keep moving, growing, and exploring.
Quotes to Ponder:
* Because of our routines, we forget that life is an ongoing adventure. ~ Maya Angelou
* Throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbors. Catch the tradewinds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. ~ Mark Twain
* Boats are safe in harbor, but that’s not what boats are for. ~ Michael Lillie
* Dear comerado! I confess I have urged
you onward with me, and still urge you,
without the least idea what is our destination,
Or whether we shall be victorious, or utterly quell’d and defeated.
Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass
Here’s to the dawning of a day filled with the uncertainty which arises with all exciting new adventures!
Aah . . . that’s better!
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Appreciating the Absence April 9, 2013
Posted by nrhatch in Gratitude, Happiness, Health & Wellness, Mindfulness.Tags: Gratitude, Happiness, Headache, Health, Migraine
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Health is a precious commodity, often overlooked, ignored, and taken for granted when it’s good and missed terribly when it’s bad.
Take the garden variety migraine ~ a debilitating companion, to be sure.
We all know how much better we feel when our head is not exploding due to blinding light slicing through cellular walls.
Right?
But do we notice the absence of pain on days when there is no migraine pounding inside our heads?
As a general proposition, I don’t.
But today I shall.
I will appreciate the absence of a headache.
Join me?
Aah . . . that’s better!
Happiness is . . . April 3, 2013
Posted by nrhatch in Happiness, Life Balance, Travel & Leisure.Tags: Books, Happiness, Leisure, Life Balance
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a warm day
a cold drink
and a good book
Aah . . . that’s better!
S~M~I~L~E! March 8, 2013
Posted by nrhatch in Fun & Games, Gratitude, Happiness, Life Lessons.Tags: Gratitude, Happiness, Life Lessons, Mindfulness, Smile
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Think of something that makes you S~M~I~L~E.
Feel that S~M~I~L~E radiating positive energy, inflating your inner tube of happiness like a balloon.
That’s it!
Now S~M~I~L~E about something else. And something else. And something else.
Go, you!
We can create happiness anytime anywhere . . . if that isn’t something to S~M~I~L~E about, what is?
A smile makes the saddest man a little happier. ~ John Gilstrap (Nathan’s Run)
Aah . . . that’s better!
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Bewitching Benefits of the Blogosphere March 2, 2013
Posted by nrhatch in Blogs & Blogging, Happiness, Life Balance, People.Tags: Blogs, Change, Happiness, Life Balance, Mindfulness
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The crystal clear blogosphere opens up oft-shuttered windows . . . expanding horizons beyond our current confines.
We witness others reaching, dreaming, and pondering possibilities.
We pull up chairs and cheer them on as they pull up stakes and move forward, becoming more fully who they always intended to be.
And we ask, “if them, why not me?”
We reclaim our freedom, sign the requisite permission slip, grab the reins, and tackle long overdue changes.
We plant the garden. We write the book. We paint the picture. We let go of stuff that is suffocating us, causing us to stagnate or stall in our tracks.
We explore, embrace, and discover . . . expanding our comfort zones.
Sometimes, it takes only a few nips and tucks to fashion a life that is a more perfect fit. Other times, we must shed layers of old before donning the new.
Either way, once our life is no longer pinching at the waste, we breathe a sign of relief.
Aah . . . that’s better!
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Rush At Each Day With Open Arms February 27, 2013
Posted by nrhatch in Books & Movies, Gratitude, Happiness, Life Balance.Tags: Ageless Body Timeless Mind, Deepak Chopra, Happiness, Health
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Even if we can’t literally turn back the hands of time, might we erase the ravages of age by the thoughts we think?
In Ageless Body, Timeless Mind, Deepak Chopra summarizes a growing body of evidence which supports the conclusion that we can reverse aging through mindful awareness.
One experiment involved a sort of “inner time travel” with elderly participants.
In another “anti-aging” experiment, geriatric patients started a weight-lifting program with remarkable results ~ when beliefs change, aging changes.
In a third study . . .
Well, let’s save that for another day. Instead, let’s discuss a few observations gleaned from the book as a whole.
Nothing holds more power over the body than our beliefs.
* Our cells constantly eavesdrop on our thoughts and beliefs. A remembered stress, which is only a wisp of thought, releases the same flood of destructive hormones as the stress itself. (Id., p. 5)
* Our cells map our experiences. Stresses forgotten on a conscious level are imprinted there, emitting signals like buried microchips, making us anxious, tense, fatigued, apprehensive, resentful, and doubtful. (Id., p. 12-13)
* Transplant patients may report an uncanny experience after receiving a donated kidney, liver, or heart ~ without knowing who the donor is, they begin to experience the donor’s memories and beliefs. (Id., p. 22-23)
* When we focus on the positives, we send positive signals to every cell in the body, drowning out negative signals from the distant past.
* And vice versa. When we focus on negatives, we send negative signals to every cell in the body, drowning out positive signals from the present.
We can harness the Mind-Body Connection for healing.
* Given placebo pills (“dummy drugs”), patients can kill pain, reduce gastric secretions, lower blood pressure, and fight tumors. The pills are meaningless; the power that activates the healing is the suggestion alone. (Id., p. 18)
* If the mind is given the appropriate suggestion, the body produces the needed biochemical response.
* “Belief creates biology.” ~ Norman Cousins
* Inserting positive intentions into our thought processes, such as, ”I want to improve in energy and vigor every day,” allows us to assert control over the beliefs that govern the aging process. (Id., p. 19)
When we change our underlying beliefs, our bodies respond.
* Despair and hopelessness raise the risk of heart attacks and cancer, thereby shortening life. Joy and fulfillment keep us healthy and extend life. (Id., p. 5)
* By renewing our intention to live active, purposeful lives, we can improve our motor abilities, strength, agility, and mental responses. (Id., p. 19)
* The Mind-Body Connection allows positive affirmations to work.
Physical exercise is the fountain of youth.
* When we give up physical activity and stop exercising, we invite a whole host of health problems into our physiology ~ heart and arteries deteriorate, bones become fragile, muscles atrophy, the risk of obesity increases, depression sets in, and aging accelerates. (Id., p. 85)
* Regular physical exercise can reverse the most typical effects of biological age (high blood pressure, excess body fat, improper sugar balance, decreased muscle mass, etc.). (Id., p. 67)
* Adopting a healthy lifestyle delays symptoms of aging by as much as 30 years. (Id., p. 60)
Rush at each day with open arms.
* Every cell in the body is seeking fulfillment through joy, beauty, love, and appreciation. (Id., p. 99)
* Learning new things and acquiring new knowledge and skills enhances our ability to stay young at a cellular level. (Id., p. 25)
* We benefit physically and mentally from the intention to experience more energy, alertness, curiosity, wonder, enthusiasm, and creativity.
* “People grow old and die because they see others grow old and die.” ~ Shankara (Ancient Indian Sage)
Rush at each day with open arms ~ awake, aware, and filled with awe.
Aah . . . that’s better!
Tomorrow . . . the pathway to timelessness.
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